I had an absolutely brutal and INHUMAN IC session. My IC made me face some TERRIBLE reality, and I cried so hard that I thought I was going to stop breathing.
I then went out on the town.
1) I went and got lunch somewhere, then went to Church
2) I checked in with some friends
2) Went to IC
3) Went to Petco and played with ferrets. Totally flirted with a worker there, and started to get back into the swing.
4) Went to a sporting goods store. Brought the A game flirting with an employee.
5) Went to the mall and got a really kick-ass business casual outfit. I look like I belong in the spy trade in it.
-Went into at least 5 stores and talked to female employees.
6) Went to a bookstore and read. I also brought out the A-Game with a really cute employee there.
7) Went to my safe place where I have REALLY good friends. Told some of them who HAVEN'T heard my story, and they ALL said
"Lose the blank".
8) Going to put on that new outfit and head to a bar wearing sunglasses. Just for the Hell of it. I'm serious. I want to look like I am a bad-ass. I am going to go for the Miami hitman/Federal Agent look.
9) I am going to stroll in just before I know she goes to bed, and make sure I call someone after I get changed.
And TOMORROW
1) Gym, 2) pool, 3) housework, and then maybe hit the city.
That bookstore idea was FANTASTIC. I can go there and there is ALWAYS pretty women, and I CAN READ FOR FREE!!
The added bonus is I can stroll on in my house whenever I want, and she will NOT know where the Hell I have been!!!
Last edited by Quicksilver264; 07/17/1002:23 AM.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
Another thing you want to do while she's home is setup your computer to send you phone calls every five mins...
This gives you a way to IGNORE her if you want... you half listen to her and half look at your phone like what she has to say really isn't all that useful to you.
If you need a break you can say "One sec, I gotta take this one..."
etc...
It puts HER in the defensive beucase rather than you standing there taknig a beating, SHE has to fight for YOUR time and attention...
Leaves them completely off guard... They hate it, but it does teach them that they ain't the prize they think they are...
Another thing you want to do while she's home is setup your computer to send you phone calls every five mins...
This gives you a way to IGNORE her if you want... you half listen to her and half look at your phone like what she has to say really isn't all that useful to you.
If you need a break you can say "One sec, I gotta take this one..."
etc...
It puts HER in the defensive beucase rather than you standing there taknig a beating, SHE has to fight for YOUR time and attention...
Leaves them completely off guard... They hate it, but it does teach them that they ain't the prize they think they are...
Well they can be a "prize", if we spouses allow it. Of course if they are cheating, thats not a prize anymore.
I had an absolutely brutal and INHUMAN IC session. My IC made me face some TERRIBLE reality, and I cried so hard that I thought I was going to stop breathing.
I then went out on the town.
1) I went and got lunch somewhere, then went to Church
2) I checked in with some friends
2) Went to IC
3) Went to Petco and played with ferrets. Totally flirted with a worker there, and started to get back into the swing.
4) Went to a sporting goods store. Brought the A game flirting with an employee.
5) Went to the mall and got a really kick-ass business casual outfit. I look like I belong in the spy trade in it.
-Went into at least 5 stores and talked to female employees.
6) Went to a bookstore and read. I also brought out the A-Game with a really cute employee there.
7) Went to my safe place where I have REALLY good friends. Told some of them who HAVEN'T heard my story, and they ALL said
"Lose the blank".
8) Going to put on that new outfit and head to a bar wearing sunglasses. Just for the Hell of it. I'm serious. I want to look like I am a bad-ass. I am going to go for the Miami hitman/Federal Agent look.
9) I am going to stroll in just before I know she goes to bed, and make sure I call someone after I get changed.
And TOMORROW
1) Gym, 2) pool, 3) housework, and then maybe hit the city.
That bookstore idea was FANTASTIC. I can go there and there is ALWAYS pretty women, and I CAN READ FOR FREE!!
The added bonus is I can stroll on in my house whenever I want, and she will NOT know where the Hell I have been!!!
Say hello to 10 new females each and every day as part of your routine.
"Lose the blank" means what? Does it mean you are wearing a poker face to show no emotions due to your current pain?
You are smart to building up a regiment and sticking to it. It doesn't matter what she does at this point. Of course if she is starting to move back towards you then thats good.
It is a good answer. I still think you do what your doing and see if she will later re-evaluate her position. Currently her viewpoint is you have no options.
Can I ask you guys something? Why are the mornings the HARDEST?
For me, when I wake up in the morning, EVERY day the horrible reality sets in of my situation. It's like when my brain turns on as I wake up, the FIRST thoughts that come into it are
"She's divorcing you" - "She doesn't want you anymore" - "She's going to be with someone else" - "Why isn't she next to me in bed right now?"
That's how my days start off, and the mornings are terribly hard.
I found out yesterday through intel that she MIGHT be taking a job 3-4 hours away. The pay is a little bit better than she makes now, but the area is rural and VERY cheap for housing.
She said she wants to take it to get away from me and from here.
IF she takes it, it is a VERY long commitment, and I don't see her ever returning to near me at all.
Do any of you think this is a sign of a spouse that is just too far gone for ANYTHING to EVER make a difference?
I am just interested in opinions. It won't change how I GAL and work on me, but it may affect whether or not I choose to have ANY hope for the marriage.
I know I can't change her, but we can CHOOSE to hope for a miracle. But it does cause some pain. However, I was always willing to suffer some pain to keep my hope alive.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
