Help with finding a lawyer

[marie2235]

Devastated and sadly giving up. I have done everything possible to save my marraige, and my husband is not interested - I have been told I dont love you - I don't even care anymore. He still wont admit to cheating - I know - he is an addict. I have exposed - done everything. An untimatum would result in him leaving, So - I think it is time to seek help. The last straw was finding out he has a joint bank account with the OW - or sould I say KID. After all, she is only 20. Not that he has ever admitted to cheating on me.

I need a good lawyer - becuase now he is using our money to buy thigns for this little tramp. I need proof - I only have what I heard on an automated bank system - I have no access to statements and things like that.


Does anyone know of somewhere I can go for help? Is there such a thing as free legal help? The courhouse in my area has a family services that ccn help fill out the papers for a do it yourself divorce, but they are not lawyers. This is not going to be pretty, I know. I only work PT - my husband has always been the breadwinner. I don't have anythign to pay a lawyer wtih. Advice?

Thanks!

[bluestar]

I certainly understand where you're coming from. However, you don't want your H to take advantage of you. Many L will have a initial consultation for free and some can offer a payment plan. Do you have a family member who can help? My mother was more than ready to give me $ for a D. I was the one who wasn't.

[marie2235]

I wish I had someone who can help. There is no one. I have a lot of good friends and some family who stand behind me, but no one that can financially help. I know I Have to give up - decided I did. Then, my emotions got the best of me and i tried talking to him again today, asked him to give us another chance - he was cold, not interested. Wouldn't even look at me. Kept his eyes closed and said, "you drove me to this".

I know, thanks to Allen and Puppy, that an addict does not responsability for thier actions or admit wrong doing.

I am having trouble staying strong. All I keep thinking is, I can't afford to support myself adn my kids, even with the little bit I would get for child support and allimony. So frustrating.

I am going to be doing some reasearch on the internet, I think.

What's worse, this 20 year old kid my husband is having an affair with, I found out that she is bipolar and has tried to committ suicide many times, and more.

I think, how on Earth did he get mixed up wtih her. What's wrong wtih him? I can only imagine the psycological games she plays with him - I have heard she is conniving and manipulative from people who know her. It's crazy. He must really need the ego boost. Proably makes him feel like a big man. She calls him her night in shining armor - it's insane.

I know I have to get myself and my kids away from this situation. I just keep hoping he will "snap out of it" and see what he is doing. I dont' know why I keep going back and forth. I dont' want to give up - I have to.