I have been smart enough not to say anything, but compliment when she does wear something nice snd she looks/smells good.
I am a little worried about some things I found out there. A common friend of ours told me she put the following on Facebook, "screw a knight in shining armor, I want a man with tattoos and a big boy attitude" Not sure what the hell to make of this, she knows I will not see it becasue she removed me from friends list. I was looking on an old account for instant messenger and found wife. Her quote for her account is "Is freezing and has a warm cuddle postition available...it's low paying but the benefits are great...apply within..." She does not know I still hang out on that web site. I could not resiste and said I would like to apply for the position. Not sure if this is good or bad, but I already did it.
I think I have had it with EVERYTHING. I do not enjoy any part of my life at this point. So far in 2010 I had my wife leave me and make my life miserable for the last 9 months. Never knowing is she was staying or going. Not that she knows what the hell is going on anymore either. Having to watch her wear less and less clothing trying to attract some man so that she can leave me and take my son and ruin his life because she is bored. In the last 2 months I have torn my ACL and lost my job. So the way I see it life sucks and I think I have had enough. I come here for support and I get the occasional comment or suggestion which I try. I ask other questions to find out how to better improve myself and nobody will reply. so good luck to you people, maybe I will see you in another life, I am out.
SMM hang in there. Don't give up yet! Your life is not a disaster. As much as there are weather seasons, there are also life seasons, and right now u r in winter. These seasond either make or break u, don't allow it to break u. There are a lot of things that r happening in ur life right now, but don't give up. I know how it is when u r so down and under and u just wish anyone can listen to u and understand how u r feeling and ultimately give u a solution to your problems.
My 2 cents: Your wife left coz obviously she was not satisfied with a couple of things. She came back coz she still wants to work on the marriage/ loves u. She might not be able to communicate her feelings to you becoz she thinks 'if u knew her u wouldn't ask' or she thinks u would never get it anyway. Either way you have to listen to what she wants. By ur own admission she does say something to u....you say she blows things out of proportion....u r judging disrespecting her views and concerns. She is actually tellin u something but u do not think it is that important. Listen to her. From what I understand abt 180s. Do more of the things that work and less of those that do not work. By ur own admission u say u find it hard to lead or initiate. A woman wants a man who can lead and initiate without being too pushy or controlling. That can be ur 180
