Just wondering if anyone might be able to shed some light on the withdrawal that happens when the spouse breaks it off with the affair person? Changes in behavior that are normal, how to handle it, how long, anything I can do..stuff like that. Any ideas or resource suggestions are welcome.
Here is a thread where Sandi2 and Puppy are talking about this. Sandi2 was an almost WAW and knows first hand some of what you are asking about. Hope it helps. Not sure if the book Not Just Friends would go into any of this or not. It's on my list of books to read but I haven't read it yet.
Me48 WAW46 M24 yrs S24 D21 D19 EA disc 6/09 2nd EA Fall 09 I move out 11/12/09 W and I switch 1/14/10 D Filed 3/17/10 W moves in with OM 6/8/10 D Final 6/21/10
Wow, I read the thread you recommended, Ken. Sandi2 and Puppy have alot of interesting ideas about contact with the OP and how to deal with that. I guess I'm not at that point yet. Didn't realize it until just now. My H has not officially told me that he is in this for the long haul. The last thing he told me about the future of our R is that he isn't sure if he wants to stay yet. That was about 3 weeks ago. About a week ago was when he told me that he was still in contact with OP and that they text and talk on the phone once in a while. He seems to be getting back into this R with me tho..or maybe it's just wishful thinking or he just wants me to think that so he can decide what he wants..me, her or someone else entirely. I thought the A was pretty much over, at least the physical part..didn't consider the emotional part. I had hoped that w/o physical contact, it would just peter out. But maybe not. Now I'm really confused. I think they call it "replay" in the MLC forum. I guess I can't really do much but wait to see what he does..and work on me, of course.
