Well does anyone? I posted here to receive help for my sitch and I understand that there are others with far greater and dire needs. My Husband is deployed for a year but my needs for advice is just as agreat as everyone else. I don't mean to offend anyone. It's just that maybe help cannot be found on these boards.
Me 41/H 49 M 12yrs No Kids Bomb 1/10/2010 H Deployed The three great essentials to achieve anything worth while are, first, hard work; second, stick-to-itiveness; third, common sense. T. Edison
Yes, they do but weekends are very busy, particularly this one. I am sorry you haven't been getting feedback. I know how important that is in these sitches. I have been off the Boards for a bit but I will read your sitch and let you know what I think.
Sorry you haven't been getting feedback; I just have to concur with kara: weekends are busy for folks and there don't tend to be as many folks on the boards at any given time as during the week, and holiday weekends are even worse. And not sure if you realize it--there are really no moderators or experts, we're all just folks who have been thru it and have learned thru experience.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
I know how frustrating it is to post and have houndreds of people read your posts but not give any advice. so i will throw what i think i know in.
I am by no means an expert. I have been on here for a few years on and off and more recently on.
The advice you could get is to first and foremost stop the beggin, pleading, chasing him ect.
When he states he wants a divorce - if you are not dark- validate his reasoning, yes your right we do not belong together, yes we should get a divorce, said with no feeling just as you were speaking to his company commander.
of course he is confused as to what he wants. i also think he is testing you, he throws out the divorce you beg and he is feeling, ah i still can have her.
Don't be available to him, if he calls, texts or wants to skype be busy, let 24 hours pass between answering calls, texts,e mail ect.
other advice will be for you to work on yourself while he is gone, during his year deployment he may be r & r. be the best person you can for you, gal.
remember the wheels of divorce are very slow, let him chase you.
set boundaries and stick to them.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
