I am on a cleaning frenzy today which is good and keeps me busy. And starting to get excited for and think about getting things ready for our vacation at the beach here in a little over a week. Definitely in need of a vacation!
Received some confirmation last night that H is not talking to or around OW anymore. Several weeks ago the OW's H texted and confronted them both, very angry and threatening to kick my H's a**. I had initially thought it was odd, because when it all started he was going around telling others what a good guy my H was and that his marriage had been over for years and they were parting on good terms. He told my H to simply wait until she moved out of the house. Well, he contact me on Facebook last night, and I asked him what changed his initial feelings on all of it and he said at that time he did not know that my H was still married and had 3 daughters. That and the pain in his own children's eyes changed it all. He said it was bad enough for his kids to be suffering but to know that another family was suffering also was just too much. He is very angry at both of them. His marriage is over(already was on its way) and he said he texts my H weekly reminding him that he does not want to run into him. I do feel bad that my H is getting somewhat threatening texts weekly but unfortunately he made his bed so he must deal with it. I am sure this is also not helping any efforts to reconcile here. I don't know. But, good to know they aren't speaking anymore. He said his children check their mother's phone regularly and nothing. He apologized for the one day he showed up at my house and startled me apparently wanting to tell me things I already knew. I wouldn't talk to him, but I explained to him that I was already aware and just didn't want to hash through all the pain with him. He understood.
H did text me this morning saying he was still feeling pretty crappy. He had not slept much the night before after a stressful conversation we had had. His hernia was acting up as was his acid reflux and his chest was hurting from all the stress he said. I believe that. I told him I hoped he felt better and I wouldn't be talking about R anymore with him and that might help the stress, but he said none of it is my fault and that he stresses himself out, that he knows I care. Not much else was said and he said he would talk to me later when he got a break at work.
Well, back to doing some cleaning and keeping busy. Tomorrow is movie day here with SIl and I and her kids and my oldest going to see Eclipse and then we all go to drive inn at night to see Toy Story 3. BBQ party on Friday evening and get together, swimming, fireworks, etc on Saturday at SIL's house. Should be a much needed good weekend.
