Hey Allen, The advice you seem to give on her is great along with the support and encouragement!! So I was wondering if I could get some Thanks... I’m going to post a link to my first thread its starts off slow and I'm trying to get better at it. http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...850#Post2015850 I also have a thread with Sandi2 which she has been helpful as well as others... Just lost after what seems to be our last MC last night. Yes if you read my post W had an EA and they tried a PA but he couldn't perform so said W as there was too much pressure this was Back in Jan. I'm sure if you read you'll get the rest of the details. Well were separated for almost 2 months now; we have a wonderful S which he is not mine Biologically, but calls me dad and I have raised him sense he was 2.
Anyway to jump ahead a little Last night after Months my W finally told the truth about how she still had feelings for OM. As much as it hurt I finally got the truth. The trust issue is one of the hardest things to get by. Anyway After I found out about the affair in Feb; as far as I know they ended contact with each other. OM was going to try again with his wife. So as far as I know they are still not in contact at this time. OM was living in FL. but moving up here for a new job sometime.
In another thread I was asked if I exposed the Affair I guess maybe exposing the affair it might help, but do I want my S to think any less of his Mother, or our family or friends to think less of W... If I don’t forgive her for what she has done as hard as it is could we ever move on in the future? (I think not) We both have issues in the past, yes hers was big It was an affair and I have had faults too.
Why would we expose everything from our past to everyone! There is only one person that knows pretty much everything about both of us and that is our MC. I believe that certain things should be between the two of us!! I guess this is just a tough topic to deal with. WHAT ARE YOU THOUGHTS?
Last year at this time we were in a much better spot even though she dropped that she wanted a D in Feb 09.We worked with our MC/IC together who helped us both. Then meet OM on business trip AUG 09-Dec 09 EA. Then this year in Jan 10, Suposedid PA MID Jan. Lot of mixed emotions since then and W also is dealing with things from her past that she has never dealt with.
I just don't want to give up on us b/c we can get through this and I want to have a better marriage. I know I need to stop perusing and give more time it's just tough!! ANY SUGGESTIONS WOULD BE GREAT AND HELPFUL from Allen or anyone today has just been a rough day!! Thanks Hope to talk soon Hope
