Do all your homework on divorce. Take the aggressive lead here.
Push her out. Keep nagging her to move out until she does.
"I WON'T (not I can't) do this anymore. I want you out of here within two weeks. This isn't working. You are the one who initially wanted out so you should be the one to move out."
Stay on that theme. Don't let up. Tell her what YOU want. Tell her what YOU have decided....
Thanks Gucci. That's what I was thinking of doing. I am gonna keep on it until she finally moves out. I know that living in the same house in different rooms is definitely not working for me anymore.
M- 28 W- 27 T- 6 years M- 2 years Bomb- 5/13/10 EA exposed- 5/30/10 Separate Rooms- 6/1/10 Divorce filed- 7/12/10 W Moved Out- 8/7/10
Thats what I am going to do. I know that she doesn't believe that I am serious. I am going to stick to my guns and be firm with my decision. Thanks for all the support.
M- 28 W- 27 T- 6 years M- 2 years Bomb- 5/13/10 EA exposed- 5/30/10 Separate Rooms- 6/1/10 Divorce filed- 7/12/10 W Moved Out- 8/7/10
Well I've had enough. I won't live like this anymore. I've been keeping myself busy and hanging out with people I haven't hung out with in years and it has made me realize I don't wanna be in this siutation anymore. My W has been so cold and nasty and its been going on for so long that I don't even want to reconcile anymore.
Started talking with my attorney today and I am going to start the D process. W should be out of the house by next friday. I feel like a huge load has just been lifted off my shoulders and I am ready to move on in my life.
M- 28 W- 27 T- 6 years M- 2 years Bomb- 5/13/10 EA exposed- 5/30/10 Separate Rooms- 6/1/10 Divorce filed- 7/12/10 W Moved Out- 8/7/10
Everything had been going great with me. Yesterday wife comes downstairs and tells me that she is moving into an apartment with her mother on Aug 7th. That I was kicking her out of the house, so they signed the lease stuff on Sat. She starts talking about the marriage and saying she has tried, but things keep happening and me kicking her out, has made her not want to work at. I let my emotions get to me a little and we had a little bit of an argument. I just let her know that I didn't kick you out. I told you I wouldn't live this anymore and if you were not going to work on the marriage then you needed to move out.
She just has a way to bring me back into all her mind games and tricks. She said she never filed for divorce because she would have days thinking about working on the marriage and then days not.
I haven't filed with my attorney. I just met with him on Friday. I am just going to keep to myself for the next few weeks before she moves out. She just has a way of totally confusing me with her thoughts.
M- 28 W- 27 T- 6 years M- 2 years Bomb- 5/13/10 EA exposed- 5/30/10 Separate Rooms- 6/1/10 Divorce filed- 7/12/10 W Moved Out- 8/7/10
Last night turned into a bad night. She gets home and she is in this mode of craziness. I know she isn't talking to the OM and hasn't for a while now. She knew that I had to be finding out my info somehow and she finds out about the keylogger.
So when she gets home she tells me she went and filed for divorce, and then starts saying she can't be around me. Accusing me of putting a tracker on her car, creating a online account for her phone, tracking her on her phone and all this stuff. I did none of that. I just had a keylogger on her laptop. After an hour of talking she finally calms down and starts admitting to me that this has been emotionally, physically, and mentally draining to her and that she hasn't been eating. She told me that she has been crying a lot and that she never wanted me to see her like that.
I was like, it would have helped the situation and my mind set if I knew these things months back. Conversation ended on a better note.
She is going away with her cousin for a week starting this Friday. So once she gets back we have 2 weeks to be living in the house together.
I am still not 100% sure that she is moving out and that she filed. She has no money and supposedly the paycheck she got on Friday went to her apartment. She only got paid $800 and the monthly rent is $1250. Then yesterday she supposedly filed the D papers which costs $225.
Not sure what to believe.
M- 28 W- 27 T- 6 years M- 2 years Bomb- 5/13/10 EA exposed- 5/30/10 Separate Rooms- 6/1/10 Divorce filed- 7/12/10 W Moved Out- 8/7/10
She is going away with her cousin for a week starting this Friday. So once she gets back we have 2 weeks to be living in the house together.
You are being naive. She is STILL seeing someone else.
The trip is a cover to find some time to be around another man...
I know you don't want to believe it,but this is textbook of what women and men do when they are having an affair. She already knows you are spying and snooping on her, so she found another way to contact the OM.. More than likely the cousin is going to vouch for her and help her out...
