how do i keep my cool?

[xin]

When I found out about my husband EA, about 6 mths ago, he asked for a separation. I hanged on for 3 mths but gave in finally as it was hurting too much to stay. After being away for 3 mths, I asked to come home saying i couldn't get a job where i was and needed to try around here. My plan is to stay and start DB'ing. My husband didn't protest when i said i was coming back, but when he saw how much i have brought with me, he kept asking what my plan was and he said he hoped i wasn't planning to come back to stay. I know i should stay calm and not lose my cool, but how do i do that when he seemed to want me gone evey minute of the day?
We just had a fight and i said a whole heap of mean things to him. How do i stop this from happening again?

[Coach]

I know i should stay calm and not lose my cool, but how do i do that when he seemed to want me gone evey minute of the day?

Stop mind reading. If you really want to know what is thinking just ask. If something is bothering you then it is your responsiblity to bring it up.

We just had a fight and i said a whole heap of mean things to him. How do i stop this from happening again?

What's your goal? Are your actions lining up with your goals?



Stress relievers:

- exercise

- pray

- make a list of what you are grateful for

- do something nice for someone else

- play with your kids/pets



Cheers

[xin]

Hi Coach,

Thanks for replying. I don't have to ask, H told me he doesn't love me, only cares deeply for me, and that it's too late for us. Would DB'ing still work in this case?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Hi Coach,

Thanks for replying. I don't have to ask, H told me he doesn't love me, only cares deeply for me, and that it's too late for us. Would DB'ing still work in this case?

If it doesn't, then everyone here is wasting their time, because nearly EVERY wayward/walkaway spouse says almost exactly the same thing.


Puppy