My previous sitch is above so I will not go into too much detail. I currently feel a amazing level of detachment after a few new developments with my every Vengeful WAW.
I busted and affair with OM (her sons boss) successfully as him and his W are trying to work things out. This situation as good it maybe in other situations didn't quite bode well in mine unless you count the fact I can call upon OM1's wife as witness for a later divorce custody case.
My WAW then started dating some guy who was an old ex, and posted pics of them hanging out etc.. Obviously to get at me, stupid me I got pretty upset and well let her break no-contact with me - Mistake 2. Apparently the fake profile she had was really some guy, and i found out who he was. They sent a message to me, and I responded to this guys real profile - I said look I see all that nasty crap on your profile, and If you think I will let DD1 around you your crazy. I am going to talk to my L and file a restraining order for DD1.
This guy apparently deleted the fake profile, said it was just a game and well he is no longer going to talk to my wife because he wants no part of any restraining order or to be dragged into our mess. I was ready to leave it that and well I just am having such a hard time understanding what is driving her to Punish me or play games when so much is at stake???
Her next move, more idiocy a guy that I know was an old friend but didnt approve of when he was messaging her before she moved out. She knew I didnt like him and she deleted him from facebook. I made a big deal about it that was that.
Today this afternoon, her FB was fully unblocked for relationship status and it said In a relationship. I must admit I just LAUGHED! This thing hasnt go so insidiously juvenile and ridiculous i am amazed at what she will do to try to hurt me.
I have been praying for a month for detachment, for clarity, for guidance and I feel like my prayers have been answered. I went for my usual walk with the dog and I feel great. No pain, no sadness, just amazement that she is still trying to push my buttons??
I dunno if she is trying to make me do something stupid to help her get a upper hand for DD1's custody or If she is enjoying this BS game she is playing. I have a feeling this may not even be a real relationship or if it is she will dump this guy in a week or 2. I just dont knpw and well now I dont care.
Now that I am detached it feels really good. And i actually went ahead and blocked her facebook and the other guys as well. I am not going to look and move forward to July 15 when I see her in court. Now if this R with OM 2 is a real deal, well that will change things.
He is a chronic dope smoker, and alcholic who works as a barback in a bar I probably will not visit anymore due to this situation. See WAW probably thought, well ill take away one of his hang outs and also piss him off with this FB stuff.
If the R is real, this will be brought up in court and In addition to asking for a psychiatric evaluation, I will file a restraining order against anyone of bad character that could come near DD1. I will go Papa bear and protect my girl, because her mom is acting so crazy and immature is insane.
I am slowly losing the thought of any chance of reconciliation because this must be the most vindictive and vengeful woman on the planet???
To any WAW's out there, what drives a woman to be this cold, vindictive, down right mean. If she really didnt care wouldnt she just IGNORE ME? Block Facebook again? Not show Anger??
Does her showing Anger mean anything?
Sandi2, Greek you out there?
Last edited by knightinneed; 06/21/1002:07 AM.
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
New Update. OM1's W revealed alot of new information to me regarding my WAW and where she is staying. She said that the Fake Profile, and her Pics of hanging with another man were a definite PLOT to make me Explode to help her gain custody of DD!.
Also, they said WAW has been acting crazy and is close to being kicked out of the home, but that her boss " Takes strays in " and is just such a pushover.
She also, wanted some photos and information because she is not sure if she is going to file against OM1.
WAW is now dating someone that knows me, someone who I told to leave her alone a long time ago, and well I know its another way to try and push me over the Edge.
OM1 W said that her boss told her that this new OM has been present around DD1 during WAW's visitation, and well he smokes weed and drinks and drugs, so I am not sure what I should do to make this not happen anymore?
I dont like the fact that she is bringing other men around my DD1 during a visitation, its not like she would tell me or have someone else tell me. It honestly just shows how stupid she is. SHould I contact CPS on this??
Court will be coming up on July 15 and well I will be ready, I hope she does not bring OM but I fear she will. She is hellbent on causing me to have some reaction. I just dont know why she is behaving like this.
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
Knight, I know you are asking for advice from a WAW, and I am not that. However, you need to quit worrying about what your W may or may not do. You will never be able to guess, and most of the time you will find yourself disappointed. Take your newfound info to your L. Let him do what he will with it. If she does bring a loser new BF to court, maybe that will be favorable for your case.
When I last spoke with L - I told him this " Lets wait for her to file D, and also Id like to seek mediation as she wants shared custody W/No child support" and at that time she said well we can try to be friends and work toward it.
Things changed when i told my therapist of her threats on my son and dad. Empty likely, but very mean and vengeful.
So, i do need to contact him and let him know that plans have changed. I thought she would file D - we could a 500 uncontested and move on with shared custody and work toward civilty.
All that was thrown out of the window with her latest exploits, so I am going to contact L and ask him. He said it does not matter who files.
I wonder if I should file, but I really would like to save the $$. Confused on this.
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
