Hi Sol, thanks. I've been meaning to post on your thread but my mind has been so all over the place lately I don't think I can be of any help right now.
I have no idea what the status of OM is. I know he lives far away, so he is not "around" all the time. I assume I can consider it a EA with occasional PA thrown in there when they take trips to visit each other, as I know for a fact has happened.
The only contact I've had with OM was a "I know the truth... f#@k you" text message I sent him the night I found out.
Hi Sol, thanks. I've been meaning to post on your thread but my mind has been so all over the place lately I don't think I can be of any help right now.
I have no idea what the status of OM is. I know he lives far away, so he is not "around" all the time. I assume I can consider it a EA with occasional PA thrown in there when they take trips to visit each other, as I know for a fact has happened.
The only contact I've had with OM was a "I know the truth... f#@k you" text message I sent him the night I found out.
Did OM ever respond to your text? And no worries about my thread. Feel free to post when you can.
Originally Posted By: konfuseeed
Mutual friend confided in me last night that W told her she thinks she "made a big mistake".
Sounds like she's seeing the light in realizing she made a mistake.
To be honest, I'm feeling pretty good. It was like I took a week to just mourn and feel awful and drink too much and cry, and now I'm back to normal.
I'm still angry, though, but I know it will fade with time.
I came here originally to save my marriage (obviously) but I just really don't think it can be saved anymore. The truth is I just don't think I can ever be with my wife again after this.
Maybe, with therapy and a lot of time for forgivness and a lot of hard work we coulda made it happen, but the fact is that she wants nothing to do with that, so I have accepted it and am moving on.
I feel strangely at peace with everything right now.
And it doesnt hurt that I met an absolutely awesome girl at a rock show saturday night.
I'm not looking to jump into a R or anything, but it was pretty nice to realize that there ARE tons of really great girls out there, and there is no reason for me to waste my time pursuing someone who does not want me, treats me like crap, and only hurts me.
I just deserve better. I'm not gonna subject myself to her anymore, cause all she does is destroy my confidence and self respect.
Let the OM deal with her issues... I've checked out.
I wouldn't think that your W has seen the light just yet. That was a testing the waters type of thing. She probably meant it when she said it, but also knows it will get back to you and wants to see how you will react...so don't. For right now, just do you.
The week of drinking, mourning, crying, its good to get it our of your system. Now its time to get back to working out and the positive things you were doing before this latest set back to help your PMA.
Like I said before, you don't have to do anything today. Just let it alone for a while and then when you are in a better place, decide with a clear head and open heart what you want to do. If its to file, then do it. If its not, then don't. Once the anger fades and the emotions are no longer running high, is the time to make decisions.
What rock show did you go to?
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Thanks Sugar. I did get it out of my system and have resumed my regular daily life. I hear you on calming down and taking time. I am going to do that, although I must say I do not see any other outcome now than divorce.
The show was this weird concert/mud-wrestling thingy. I know, I know, sounds crazy, and it was. It was like the WWE but mud-wrestling girls. A god friend of mines friend was playing in one of the opening bands, so we went. We drank too much cheap beer, I met a really cool lady and we had a generally awesome night.
Can't say I've ever seen anything like it before, but it was a great time.
Still kicking around the idea of IC... I'll probably go at some point, but right now I feel strong and good.
I have also come to realize in the past week, when I was kinda beating myself up, just how many people in my life really care about me. Family and friends have been here for me through this from the beginning.
I'm just seeing the light at the end of the tunnel here, and I'm not worried or scared of what comes my way, no matter what it is.
