I have been reading DR book, which has offer me so much hope. I had to move straight to LRT and 180. Because on May 24th my husband told me he wanted a divorce and I had 60 days to find a job to live near family, before he would file. I went out of town on 25th for a week to regroup, clear my mind,and talk with my family. That's when I started the DR book. Since, I have started it my husband has either texted, called, or stop by our house with my permission everyday since I've been home. Before, we did not talk that much or see each other. There has been no mention of divorce since the 24th. I don't beg, plead, or argue. I have been GALing and taking care of myself. Each time I see him he makes comments on how great I look and how much weight I have lost. He is always asking my plans and who, what, and where I am going. We have been intimate in the last couple of weeks more than last few months. I don't know if I should be seeing him or evern talking to him everyday. I'm so confused! I let him do all the contacting, but not sure if the LRT is working or I am just reading the signs wrong!Please help! NOt sure what to do next????
I am so glad you are reading DR and that the techniques are definitely working! As great as the book is, it doesn't take into account your unique situation. If you aren't talking to A DB coach, this is the perfect time to do so. They will help take you to the next step, and help you to get clear on what needs to be done. Don't stop now, you are on the right track!
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Everything I have read and practice tells me that it is important for you to MAKE HIM CHASE YOU and WIN YOU BACK. You are the prize.
Rejecting him a few times will make him chase harder. A few "That doesn't work, I have plans" with no other explanation will get him wanting to see you more.
It is important that HE FEELS a loss based on HIS POOR CHOICE.
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Since, I have started it my husband has either texted, called, or stop by our house with my permission everyday since I've been home. Before, we did not talk that much or see each other.
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There has been no mention of divorce since the 24th.
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Each time I see him he makes comments on how great I look and how much weight I have lost.
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We have been intimate in the last couple of weeks more than last few months.
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I let him do all the contacting
Seems to me it is having a positive effect.
Keep doing what works.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Thanks for the feedback. I really want to move to the next step and get a DB coach. I just need to save up a little more money to afford one. We are strapped on cash right now with us living apart. As soon as I save up enough I will be calling. Thank you!
Thank you so much for the feedback. I will keep practicing everything I've learned. I am so happy that I found this website,it is so encouraging. With the LRT, 180's, and lots of prayer to my Heavenly Father I feel like I have a fighting chance. And you are so right, I will let him chase me. Because of this website, DR book, and God I am getting stronger everyday. No matter what happens I will be ok! Thanks again for the feedback.
