For most people, reunions are tough because much of it is a show and tell, to show other people what a good picture-esq life you have. Perhaps that's why you initially felt anxious about showing up without your W?
I skipped all of my reunions (5 yr, 10 yr, 20 yr) but called the friends that I wanted to keep in touch with and caught up with them one on one. Maybe you can do the same and/or get them to get together separately before the actual reunion?
My 25th high school reunion is this weekend. A girl that I went to school with has kids at our kids school and got my W's phone# and asked her if we were going. She told me this one day last week. I didn't really say anything and my first thought was, no way am I going alone. At my 10 yr reunion, my W was my girlfriend, at the 20th, she was my wife and mother of my three kids with one on the way, and now she is my STBXW. I didn't want to face anyone or face the questions of where my W was.
I have made up my mind to go alone. I didn't ask W if she was going or not, I know better. I will go and make my W think I can't wait to see everyone and that I will have a great time. I am open to having a great time and I hope I do. Maybe there will be some old flames in similar situations, you never know.
Just another reminder of what used to be.
For my 20th, me and the 6 guys I was closest to in school (we're still really tight)rented a cabin at the resort where the reunion was held (9 miles from our school). NONE of us brought our wives; mostly because none of the wives went to our high school and really didn't know anyone. It was more to spare them the boredom, but served the dual purpose of letting us be high school jackasses again.
Even the women in our class were envious - saying "how in the hell did you pull off coming without your wives? Wish we could have done that!" People poured into our cabin for an afterparty when the reunion was over. Had a blast.
So I guess I'm wondering why you might think twice about going to your reunion alone...
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
Just got a call from my attorney saying my W had called her. Basically asking about how much it will cost and started asking about division of property. My attorney cut her off and said she couldn't answer any of her questions. She did tell W that if she agreed to what my att. filed and didn't contest anything that it would be cheaper but she would still be representing me and that my W should get her own atty. to read over things and advise her.
Because she is worried about the cost. There is always hope if you want there to be. I personally work with a guy who got divorced and his W came back 6 months later.
You never know. Sometimes it takes that kind of separation to turn things around.
Hang in there IDU. You will be fine either way. You may WANT her, but you don't NEED her anymore. I am at the point where I am not even sure that I WANT her anymore.
I feel for you. You still have hope, and that is something you can still hold on to.
Your W is trying to protect herself by contacting your attorney. She wants to know what you are up to.
Keep quiet about things, and see how she responds to what she is finding out. She is on a fact finding mission right now to see how it will go for her if you both D.
Don't give up yet. Just keep DBing, and remember what you have learned so far.
I am rooting for you.
Last edited by LSG; 08/31/1006:32 PM.
ME-41 W-33 M-8 D-8 S-4 D 5/17/2010 www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1961097#Post1961097
Oh geez. Stop being so dramatic. I know it's not easy getting to where you need to be in this whole process, but I can tell you this isn't it. It's pure eeyore
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
The cost of doing this is not only hitting her, it is hitting me, too. How am I supposed to take care of four kids and housing and clothes and school and daycare and.........?
Crap, I know I need to follow through and I know it's the right thing to do and I will find a way.
