Very frustrated today. Ex asked me for a 60 day notice regarding the house. It has not sold and she has the option to either move back in and pay the whole mortgage or pay half and not live here. She has emailed me to say that she cannot afford either option and has an appointment with a bankruptcy attorney?
I responded to her email that I had consulted with my lawyer regarding this and she told me that the day she files will be the day that I file for contempt of court and that I will notify everyone in her chain of command as well.
On top of that, she is going on a cruise this weekend with her boyfriend and my daughter and one of my daughter's friends. My daughter reported to me that her mom told her that the cruise cost more than $3000. I believe it too as it is a Disney cruise.
WTF??? I am a loss. Anyone have any suggestions?
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
More drama. Ex was in the base commisary today w/ her bf. She saw me checking out and approached me and bumped into me on purpose. I turned around and looked and she says, "do you want to meet my bf?" I responded not really and turned around to finish checking out. Based on this and her emailing and calling me at work I think I have no choice but to talk to my first sergeant tomorrow to see about a no contact order.
Pretty ballsy of her I think. Pretty sure she was being an ass and trying to ellict a response from me that was not appropriate while I was in uniform. I'm not getting in trouble for her.
Your not supposed to give that response. Alternatively, genuinely saying "hello" to the boyfriend wouldn't have hurt you one bit and done with no shame, guilt or inferiority it would have her boiling.
Yeah, my Dad told me I should have asked him out for a drink. Nah, I can't do it. I don't want anything to do with her.
So, I consulted with my lawyer and said she can't do anything until the ex actually stops paying on her obligations. She also said that if I file for contempt in FL but that I would have to travel back to FL everytime there was a hearing. She suggested that I wait to get to AZ before I file for contempt if I need to.
I asked her if there was a way to be proactive instead of reactive. She said, because my ex is active duty that I could explain the situation to my 1st Sergeant and see if they would contact her 1st Sergeant to cut her off at the pass so to speak. So I did...
Conversation went something like this: Hi, I just wanted to let you know that I spoke with my lawyer regarding ex wife's intentions to not honor her obligations and possibly file for bankruptcy. I told the 1st Sgt that I would rather be proactive than having to file for contempt of court in AZ which would force the ex to have to take leave and travel on her own dime out there everytime there is a hearing. Additionally, if she does not show then there would be a bench warrant for her in AZ. I told her also that I thought it was damn irresponsible for the ex to go on a Disney cruise this past weekend and yet she has an appointment w/ a bankruptcy attorney?
She said she would do what she can by contacting my ex wife's 1st Sgt as she felt it was irresponsible and we'll see what happens.
I don't want to be in financial straights because of my ex's blatant irresponsibilty nor do I want to have my daughter's standard of living significantly impacted because she has behaved this way. Damn frustrating sitting here waiting.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
My daughter got back from the cruise today and told her mom she wanted to come home! Awesome for me! I got my baby home early.
So, I go to pick up my daughter and ex is there trying to talk to me about contacting her 1st Sgt and I just smiled and didn't say one word. Got my daughter out of there and she just smiled and said, OMG, Daddy, I'm so glad to be out of there. Mommy won't quit asking me if I will stay with her. Lots of drama for my daughter. She said she couldn't wait to leave here and go to AZ.
Thank God, I have a daughter who is wise enough to see through the crap and do the right thing.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
So, getting closer and closer to moving and the ex has propositioned me to take on $8k of her debt and she will refinance the house in her name. She claims she cannot qualify for a home loan unless she gets rid of some of her debt. Bottom line is me paying $250 a month or $2500 a month. It really pisses me off that I have to pay for anything at all especially since she just came off a cruise. If I look at in the light that I would lose $8k from selling the house then I guess it wouldn't be so bad but it still sucks either way.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
with the house and utilities,etc. cost about $2500 a month. If she files bankruptcy, I would be stuck w/ the whole thing. I need to take her loan that she agreed to pay in the divorce decree for her to qualify to refi the house. Her debt to credit ratio is too high. Payment on the loan is $250. I'm considering it as it would take my name of the house which hasn't sold and keep my standard of living high at my next base. I'm considering doing this...
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
Yep, there will be a legal contract drawn up and signed. It looks like a better deal doing this and removing myself from her all together.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
