Hopeful, don't feel sorry for me, I get my kids every second week. My lawyer said I hit the jackpot because most Dad's get one day a week and every second weekend. I live a few blocks away from STBX and did so purposely so when the kids were with me they could still be in the same neighbourhood, less change for them. I think everybody who goes through this has it tough! And time does not heal all wounds, it's more what we do with the time that heals them. I know people who have been separated/divorced for many years and still have to battle those feelings e.g. failure, lonliness etc. When you take the Divorce trip it ain't no three hour tour! We have Mennonites in the Kitchener-Waterloo area of Ontario, we used to take school trips to visit them. I know they didn't smell!
H, Born and raised right in "ole St. Mary's County"!
The county has actually grown a bit since I was a child and there is more to do now and not just the old drinking hole of Penny's in down town Leonardtown.
Life does get better once you are off the rollercoaster.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
OMG! Really! I was unable to post for a few days due to work, when I got on today I saw your response. Wow, can't believe you live in the "County".
I know the county has grown a lot especially in the last 10 to 15 years.
Well so, you'll have to tell me since I haven't read much on you since 2005, Are you remarried? Are you dating? Does you XH still live here? Am I remembering your Sitch correctly?
Just thought I'd ask. Hope life is treating you well.
I think she might of been a fallen away...menonite! Yea, that's it...lol
You know, I never thought I would end up divorced... Even if I meet Mr. wonderful in the future, I think I will forever be affected by this D experience.
Too many people make light of getting/being divorced, as if it's as routine as getting your teeth cleaned. But for me, it changed me and my children profoundly.
I agree absolutely! Not long ago I was driving a co-worker home who mentioned how impressed she was that my ex and I get along so well. She's getting married soon and we talked a bit about divorce and I told her "it's one of the most horrible things that will ever happen to you and I hope you never have to go through it" It tears you apart and haunts you probably forever. I too hate the way our society sees it as ho hum, just another divorce. It is horrible, devastating and leaves huge scars. How can that be like getting your teeth cleaned (although I don't like getting that done either!). You just have to read the pain on this BB to know what the reality is. We can build new lives and be happy but I can't imagine it will ever be just a faint memory. Wow, am I Mr. Happy today!
Yes, I still live here and commute every day to the big, bad city.
I think you've got my sitch correct...no, I am not remarried and he does still live in the state. He is now over by the Bay Bridge and he did finally marry the HO.
I don't discuss my personal life on the board due to a certain situation that transpired years ago. I will say this, I'm alive and living life to the fullest.
So there you have it...someone from your "neck of the woods" and you didn't even know it.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
