How old is your daughter? So far my kids don't know. But they'll know soon enough. The biggest mess of the whole WAW thing is that they have already checked out in their own mind before even bringing it up to you. Often we're starting at D-day.
MRLost, my daughter is also 4 and I am planning to get my W to think of a script to tell our daughter and to think of answers to the emotions that will come out of our daughter.
I know there is a lot of advice out there about ensuring the kids know that it is not their fault and that daddy and mummy still loves them, but I hope by making my W think through exactly what she and I will say make her understand that kids are NOT fine with D. It shakes their security foundation to the core.
--------------------- Me 32 W 26 D 3 Married 8 yrs Bomb dropped May 2010
Actually, I need to update my profile, my kids are both 6. But I don't think there is a "good age" to do that to a child.
Hopefully, your working with the script will work. I tried that and my wife just blasted through it, like there wouldn't be any problems. Even if I presented such she'd just give a generic "not your fault" "we still love you very much" response.
Also, remember that just like any scripted conversation, reality doesn't always go the way we'd hoped. Be careful not to script in your own head your wifes response to the script. (I hope that made sense).
Well, I got served today. In front of my daughter too. My wife came over with my son and told the kids about the divorce. My kids are both six (twins). My daughter cried a bit and my son didn't seem to comprehend (or want to) the reality of it. He said he did, but in the next breath asked to play the Wii. I walked them out to her car and he immediately put his headphones on.
I don't know what to do. I'm feeling so down about it all and I'm getting the feeling that there's really nothing I can do to stop this. She's hell-bent and didn't even get upset when telling the kids. I've never seen her so cold in my life.
I spoke to my wife only briefly. We talked about who would take the kids when this weekend. I spoke to my son for a few seconds, but he isn't much of a phone conversationalist. He just gave me the basic goodnight. Spoke to my daughter a bit at length. She was doing better.
I have 30 days to reply to the notice. The court date is for August 17th.
