My other posts are on here somewhere - basically my husband left on Saturday. He said things are over but I believe there is still hope even though he said there was not and I believe if I asked him he would watch the "Marriage Breakthrough".
I could be wrong, maybe he would say no.
What are your thoughts? Is that considered being "needy" or "desperate". I have started watching it and it is pretty amazing.
I don't know what to do because I dont want to make things worse!
yes, doing this would be considered pursuing and it would possibly be viewed as needy and desperate but then again, this is just my opinion, you should probably wait to hear a few other opinions before making your decision on this.
Yes, we have been twice but I dont feel like we ever got to the real issues. I think he bottles everything up and is harboring pent up anger/resentment from the past 10 years and doesn't think he can get passed it and that has overshadowed love that he felt for me.
...asked him he would watch the "Marriage Breakthrough"....What are your thoughts? Is that considered being "needy" or "desperate". I have started watching it and it is pretty amazing.I don't know what to do because I dont want to make things worse!
My vote is "Needy" and asking him will make it worse....Spend your time focused on you.
On the other hand. IF/WHEN he tries to come back, you can set a boundary and have watching the movie part of it.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
It would be better if you would just keep one thread.
The DR book teaches the LBS to not try and get the WAS to read books or watch programs, etc. As an almost WAW, I can testify to the fact it only makes matters much worse the more you press.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
