Perusing the forums this morning, reading success stories, and searching for the stength I need to get through the day. This is her mess, not mine. We're where we are because of her affair, her manipulation, and her refusal to be accountable for her own destructive behaviour. She's an addict, and I can't trust anything she says or does right now. She's trying to deflect blame onto me, because she is unable to deal with the consequnces of her actions.
Take a walk. Breathe. Be patient. Focus on goals. Focus on the big picture, not the mess that surrounds it. Know that inside is the woman you fell in love with, and hopefully she will be able to free herself and to heal. You know what the most important things are, even though she's forgotten. Breathe.
