my biggest mistake

[mdoodles]

for anyone that doesnt know me, my thread is he was back, i think....i wanted to start a new thread today because im sitting here reflecting on my situation-

although i could not save my marriage, although im over it, although im going thru the divorce and im really really fine and truly happy to not be with h, there is one big mistake i made-

i wish i could have had the strength to recognize the affair was going on when it first started. its true the wife is the last to know, and thats because i didnt want to know.

had i found the strength at the beginning, maybe my marriage would have still ended, but most likely this psycho mistress would have fled had she known my husband was still married to me!

now, she is still very much around, living in my in-laws house and pregnant! its a nightmare. i never ever wanted my son to know her, let alone have a half sibling from her!

i hope that any of you out there that are struggling with admitting their spouse is having an affair or are debating exposing the affair, my advice is - come to terms with it and expose!

by the time i found out, it was too too late. even though he came back, even though i stuck by him, he went back to the same mistress. and the mistress took him back because she had been with him so long, she believed his stories.

i know how hard it is to confront and expose but if you have children, u are protecting them. may not save your marriage, but may save you from what i have to now deal with.

just my opinion.