Maybe a bit off topic but I can't help but feel weirdly grateful for this experience. I mean I hate the fact that I was cheated on and left but at the same time had it not been for this experience I never would have sought out counselling for myself, never would have read the stack of self help books I have, and never learned how to establish and enforce healthy boundaries. It has taken me from a position of feeling weak and helpless to feeling strangely empowered.
I also have a WAS that is begging to come home as a result of my DBing and while I haven't decided whether to let her back into my life or not, I now know that regardless of what I decide, I'm going to be just fine. Better than that actually because I now have the strength to ensure that the people in my life will treat me with respect.
I was thinking the same canadian kid. The counseling, the DBing, and the meds i take seriously now have me feeling better. I know now that if W comes back that i am equipped with ways to handle the arguments, how to keep my cool etc...
The meds really have me feeling alot better more motivated. I hope things work out in your sitch.
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
Yes, I am totally with you on this one. I am grateful to H for his A. It has forced me to address my own issues and grow in the process. Regardless of how this all turns out, I've learned alot about myself, H, and R in general. Despite it being incredibly painful, apparently this was the lesson that the universe decreed I needed at this time.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
