Anyone ever wonder?

[Kimmie Lee]

I do.

I wonder why our WAS's think no one else would ever want us?

[newmama]

ok what motivated you to ask this question?? You got my curiosity!

[Kimmie Lee]

I see posters' WAS's get jealous when LBS's start dating. That's all.

[MrBond]

"I wonder why our WAS's think no one else would ever want us?"

It's not that they think no one else would ever want us. It's that THEY don't want us. There's a difference.

[g450]

I was at a female friends house (not a GF) when my XW called me. She has her own evil ring tone.

My friend wanted to answer with "sorry he is in the shower". I told her not to.

A week later I found out my XW has been in fact having an affair for months if not years while we were still married and before she even dropped the bomb. She lied, big surprise right?

Now I wish I did let my friend answer my phone. But I have zero contact with my XW now so I missed my chance at having a little twisted fun with her LOL.

Yes, other people will want us. Women usually have much more success getting dates but sadly it's because there are a lot of guys out there that only want one thing and they prey on the weak (recently divoreced etc.)

For us divorced guys it's a pain to date as most women tend to avoid us because of the percieved baggage that we may have. But there's still hope.

I look at it this way, I have experience as a husband and father and my divorce has made me even better at being a good mate for somebody new. It's not baggage, it's hard lessons learned that are beneficial. Am I wrong?

Anyway, I am currently dating one woman who is also divorced. We are taking it slow. Nothing serious. Just friends that like to hang out with each other and bitch about their divorces LOL.

Wish me luck.

[pearlharbr]

I think it's because they only see the LBS's faults. They've completely forgotten or disregard anything good so they think there isn't any.

And maybe there's some ego involved. They think the LBS will never get over the WAS and will sit there and pine away forever.

Bwah hah hah hah! I had the man I'd lusted after for 15+ years fawning all over me as soon as I said I was single.

[I_miss_him]

I am in my second marriage. My XH I left...he wanted desperately to work things out, but he had hurt me too bad (and 9 years later he still tells me he loves me). But, the thing is he told me several times that no one would want me ever...I would be a single mother, I have strech marks from being pregnant, yada, yada. I now know that he only said these things out of fear.
My H has never said that he didn't think anyone would ever want me again....because I KNOW he knows that isn't true. He just doesn't want me For now that is....

[g450]

IMH, Forget that XH loser! Stretch marks? You have got to be kidding me!

Some of the sexiest women I know have stretch marks. Is he really that shallow and egotistical?

As far as your H not wanting you, too bad for him. Don't use him or your XH as a guage. There are millions of good single and divorced guys out there that would treat you like a queen and appreciate you (stretch marks and all). I know because Im one of them LOL.

Good luck to you. Just remember, if all falls through there will always be somebody out there for you that will give you what your deserve.

[I_miss_him]

IMH, Forget that XH loser! Stretch marks? You have got to be kidding me!

Some of the sexiest women I know have stretch marks. Is he really that shallow and egotistical?

As far as your H not wanting you, too bad for him. Don't use him or your XH as a guage. There are millions of good single and divorced guys out there that would treat you like a queen and appreciate you (stretch marks and all). I know because Im one of them LOL.

Good luck to you. Just remember, if all falls through there will always be somebody out there for you that will give you what your deserve.

LOL! Funny thing is my XH stayed at my house for a few days a couple of weeks ago. He lives about 1000 miles away but came in to take our D to her father/daughter dance. During our surpisingly comfortable visit he THANKED me. He said that he treated women like [censored] and if it weren't for me setting him straight and not putting up with it then he might still be that way.

As for my H....I love him and right now I can't even fathom being with another man....sigh.....

[g450]

I envy your H.

I still love my XW (or what she used to be) but her dissrespect of me and our marriage and her affair was a deal breaker for me.

At some point in this thing we will all reach our threshold where we have had enough and realize that we deserve better.

Love is a choice. She chose to fall out of love with me.
And she also chose to fall in love with her high school boyfriend from 36 years ago.

And now I CHOSE to go on without her. I have plenty of love to give for somebody new. At 48, life is too short and I told my XW that. Im taking her advice...Im moving on. Her loss.