I'm not sure if anyone here will remember me and my situation... but, in a nutshell my husband of 18 years had an affair with my best friend and moved out.
After two years and him going back and forth for a year, we might finally be coming to the final divorce within this next month. I moved out of our family home that has been forclosed and rented a townhouse for the kids and I. It was a huge step towards closure to be on my own in a place I had chosen.
Everything we were previously fighting over in our paperwork is off the table now. My STBEX got fired from his job of 15 years.. I really didnt think things could get much worse. The kids and I are getting very little money.. its crazy.
Anyway, I am hoping to reconnect with everyone on here to help me thru this next chapter of after the divorce.
After two years and him going back and forth for a year, we might finally be coming to the final divorce within this next month. I moved out of our family home that has been forclosed and rented a townhouse for the kids and I. It was a huge step towards closure to be on my own in a place I had chosen.
I'll bet it was. Good for you.
Surviving! Name of the game. Good luck to you.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
You're still standing, and that itself speaks loudly. You discovered that you're surviving; and sometimes, you cannot believe that you had it within you. Infidelity bites, and so does a separation, or a divorce. Just ride it through - one day at a time. Stay busy, visit the board, and surround yourself with friends and family. If you find yourself crying or feeling scared, it's normal. Just hang in there and have faith in yourself. You made it this far...in the near future, your best is yet to come!
Hang in there girl, you've made it this far. I've been D now for almost a year. After D is no where near as bad as the after Bomb. Hold your head up, and know you did what was best for you and your children. There was nothing more you could do.
Time to put you #1
Best wishes, TOH
was theotherhalf M43 H43 M22 T25 MLC/OW bomb 4/07 Hmoved out 8/07 D6/09 Still trying to accept and move on...
