Have a question for anyone who cares, WAS's or LBS.
My WAW was very much emotionally unavailable. I'm wondering if there is any common connection between WAS's and being the emotionally unavailable type.
Thoughts?
Formerly SGfan M:38 W:33 M:8 yrs T:10 yrs Bomb: Dec '08 Separated: 4/18/09 Divorce: 8/28/09 XW Affair began: April 08
I guess more of a cooralation would be a better way of putting it.
For example, throughout my marriage I really had to work hard to get my xw discuss how she feels. Even two therapists and a psychiatrist told her she needs to work on communicating her needs and feelings to everyone one in her life.
Also, she was the kind of person that if you know her faults, she would push you away. This includes friends and family.
No one could ever get close to her.
Just trying to understand...
Last edited by Sgfan; 05/04/1007:04 PM.
Formerly SGfan M:38 W:33 M:8 yrs T:10 yrs Bomb: Dec '08 Separated: 4/18/09 Divorce: 8/28/09 XW Affair began: April 08
I was very emotionally available. My LBH was the one who couldn't communicate his feelings. So, I guess I can't really be much help.
I really don't think that being emotionally or non-emotionally available is the "decision factor" of walking away for a spouse. I think having a LBS who can't give emotionally of themselves can have just as much impact on the R.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Agreed from the other side of the fence with sandi. I, as a LBS did not communicate my feelings, but (x)W was always assertive of hers and so wanted more from me.
Conversely, I think it does kind of play into the scheme of things.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
