What happens When the WAS Wants to Come Home?

[CanadianKid]

Not sure if this belongs here or not but I hope it fits in piecing.

So when the WAS comes out of the fog and decides they want to work on the relationship, what happens next? I've read several posts saying one of the biggest mistakes the LBS can make is allowing the WAS to return to easily. So what specifically should the LBS require? What boundaries should be set?

I'd appreciate any insight into what has/hasn't worked..

[Surviving03]

I am very curious about this too, my H and I have started piecing and Im afraid I am making this too easy on him.... what should I be doing?

[dday101798]

Simple. Reverse the roles. They want to come home? Make them do everything you did initially when they left and you wanted them to come home: Persue, beg, cling. Adapt a "show me" attitude.

And state your boundries clear and without wiggle room, if there's a OP involved, the first sign of faulter, you're gone.

[CanadianKid]

Thanks for the tips. Very helpful.