Stages of MLC?

[old theotherhalf]

Any links that work out there for the 6 stages of MLC? Just curious?

[Cadet]

Welcome to this board, Sorry you are here but you will meet some wonderful people here and get some great advice.

I know you have been here before but this is the list I give everyone.

Detach Link
http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/

The link for the resources includes the stages of MLC:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1539436

Stages of the LBS
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1964990&page=1

Why they run:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...6668#Post526668

Now you have all the tools to read. Let us know how your doing and if you have any questions.

I suggest that you read the entire thread in the resources. You can also pick out some people and read their whole story.

Remember that in the stages of MLC it does NOT go 1,2,3,4,5,6 but can get all mixed up and repeat itself and have more than one stage at once. Depression is the key to the whole thing and it is always present!

[old theotherhalf]

Well, today is the big day. One of my best friend's sons (EX H's cousin) is getting married today. I am going but really nervous. It wil be the first time I've seen X in a very long time. With all that's went on recently I'm amprehensive at how it will go. And I had asked X if he was taking OW and he would not answer me. (Restraining order) So I guess if she is there, I'll have to leave.

I plan on staying completely away from him. And having a good time. If he decides to talk to me, I'll be nice.

Wish me luck.
TOH

[Andabelle]

I'm assuming you were invited? I'm sure X's cousin knows about the restraining order, in which case I hope he didn't invite OW.

It would pretty weird of your X to bring OW (now that he knows you'll be there, too) when he's been hitting on you so much lately. Unless he wants to make you jealous... good luck with that, buddy.

Hold your head up-- you can do it!

[old theotherhalf]

Of course I was invited. I watched the grow up.

Well I made through. H was there alone. He stayed on one side of the room, I on the other. I was fine till they played one of our songs. Most of the couples were dancing, X was sitting at his table alone. I was at mine alone. I thought it was time for me to go. That way H could relax and be with his family.

D18 just texted me and said that her Dad left when I did.

I pray life will get easier...

[Andabelle]

I know that was a hard to get through, but you did GREAT!

It is hard for you to see it yourself, but really, you have grown so much. Life is already easier to the extent you are doing a hundred times better than you were.

We're proud of you!

[old theotherhalf]

Annabelle,
I know that I am 100% better today than I was 2-3 years ago. Sometimes I feel like I haven't moved on at all. Then others I feel I've made leaps and bounds. Alot of the time on the outside, what people see, I'm doing wonderful. People tell me all the time. It's what people don't see...

Thank you for saying your proud. Everyone can use one of those sometimes.

I still in my heart and mind am a mess. I miss this man so very much. I worry about him. I'm angry at him. I hate him, I hate OW. I feel sorry for him, because I know how he is hurting. I miss soooo very much. My life today is not where I want to be.

I do good most of the time keeping this hidden. Then he called/text...then I seen him at the wedding.
A little dejavue....D18, her BF and I were seated in a pew at the wedding XH came in and we thought went back out. Then we noticed he was sitting on the other end of our pew. Three people in between D and H. After the wedding ushers starting letting people out one pew at a time. People in between D and X did not wait they left early. So when we were ushered out it was X, D, BF, and I. How's that for fate? Just like a family again.

This is all so hard to get over and get on with. If only....