Hundreds of sitches on here. I've studied thousands of them.
Some of the OM's are parasitic crooks, who are getting into your personal affairs with your wife acting as gatekeeper. I've been close to and heard OM stories about OM's stealing the car of the H, the W using the H's money on OM, the OM stealing or damaging business of the H, the H getting robbed or car stolen and it was the OM or his cronies. Or the H being under investigation because his W is with an OM.
I was wondering how many H's have stories ( even if its not you ) of altercation between H and OM?
...my day of "face-toface" has yet to come....i am going to heed the advice i got on here..."it would be in your best interest to stay away from me, I have nothign to say to you".
don't get me wrong - i know OM and he is a conflict instigator, so i fulley expect him to try to push my buttons....parasitic....sounds just like him.
M-37 W-36 S-11, S-9, D-4 PA exposed 3/13/10 10/19/10 moving on... most up to date sit
I'm a female. But I will tell you this. As classy of a lady as I am, if OW lived in the same country, I would have definitely whooped her A$$ and I would have enjoyed every minute of it too.
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
So OM turned himself into your 'nemisis'? What does Wife think about it? ( she should think she made a mistake and realize she likes you much more and loves you )
It may be your advantage to never say a word to him, because you don't want to "relieve" that pressure, unless you actually need to ...
If that fight goes down, wife better jump on his ass too. I know that would make you feel good.
I've know OW's addy since November & her parent's since December. It is EXTREMELY tempting to show up & knock her f*&king teeth down her throat. But, that would just get me arrested. I think about signing her up for every magazine know to man, with 'bill me later' checked & other silly stuff like that.
OW also had the unmitigated gall to show up at my bar w/her friends during a Friday happy hour. I wasn't entirely sure that it was her, but she literally watched every move I made for an hour & 1/2. That's what makes me think it was her. I forgot to look at the name on the i.d., but the age was right. Duh!
One of my regs was sitting next to her, innocently asked how things were going w/H. Said "H is a jackass", then turned to her, smiled, said "how you holding up?".
I won that battle b/c my bar was packed w/friendly folks who say often & loudly "We love you, Ruined" [the later it gets, the more I hear it. Could be the booze talking] . Not to mention, I've got a pack of super cute young dudes [25 and younger] who dote/flirt all the time.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
The OM showed up at my working place trying to get me fired for harassment. I just shrugged it off and said "go ahead'.
He was a little surprised that I had called his bluff and I proceeded to tell him that he was inconsequential to me. After awhile, there was a crowd of my coworkers watching us and when one of them told him and his buddy they had to leave because they knew what was going on, he demanded "how do you know what's going on?".
So I told him that I've told everyone I know. And that I had told people in restaurants, bars, on the bus, etc. And so everyone knows who he is and what he had done. Then I told his buddy "and now everyone knows who YOU are." They both seemed very embarrassed, so I told the crowd, "everyone, this is (OM's name and his buddy's name) and this is the guy I was telling you about."
So they both stormed off embarrassed. I escorted them to the Lobby where I told the people there who they were. They ran off quite quickly and I never heard anything from them ever again.
You don't need to be physical about it. Sometimes you just have to bring the evil out into the light and the OP will scurry away like a cockroach.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
The OM showed up at my working place trying to get me fired for harassment. I just shrugged it off and said "go ahead'.
He was a little surprised that I had called his bluff and I proceeded to tell him that he was inconsequential to me. After awhile, there was a crowd of my coworkers watching us and when one of them told him and his buddy they had to leave because they knew what was going on, he demanded "how do you know what's going on?".
So I told him that I've told everyone I know. And that I had told people in restaurants, bars, on the bus, etc. And so everyone knows who he is and what he had done. Then I told his buddy "and now everyone knows who YOU are." They both seemed very embarrassed, so I told the crowd, "everyone, this is (OM's name and his buddy's name) and this is the guy I was telling you about."
So they both stormed off embarrassed. I escorted them to the Lobby where I told the people there who they were. They ran off quite quickly and I never heard anything from them ever again.
You don't need to be physical about it. Sometimes you just have to bring the evil out into the light and the OP will scurry away like a cockroach.
I think about signing her up for every magazine know to man, with 'bill me later' checked & other silly stuff like that.