My new "Relationship"

[Kimmie Lee]

Well, after 2 1/2 years since the bomb, and nearly 1 1/2 years post divorce, I met someone online. We've never met in person, and have been talking on the phone for about 3 months.

Is that wrong?

[NoLongerHere]

Why would it be wrong?

[Gardener]

Do you think it's wrong?
Are you enjoying yourself, the conversations, the attention, him?

[NoLongerHere]

Nothing wrong with connecting with people. It's healthy. Gardener's asking the right questions -

[Kalni]

WOW, Kimmie Lee!! You always sound so cynical and realistic and here you are, asking a question that doenst sound like you at all...
Why would it be wrong? Why on EARTH WOULD IT BE WRONG? Because...? Seriously, what's the issue here?

Enjoy the interaction and I wish you soon get to next stage, real dates!!
Good Luck!
K

[Gardener]

Kimmie,
Could it possibly feel wrong because it feels scary? Vulnerable? Putting yourself "out there" again?

[ClingingToHope]

What feels wrong, probably, is that it's such a different way to meet someone.

[LolaL]

This is how I met the guy I am having the lunch date with today. I don't think it is wrong at all. And if it is fear that you are feeling, Hun, I am right there with you.

But you have to get busy living, or get busy dying. Or just get busy

[SpyBunny]

I think Kimmie's question can be interpreted two ways, let me throw this out there-

1) Nothing wrong with meeting online, it's very common nowadays.

or

2) Does something feel "wrong" to you about the guy? Like are you ready to meet and move things forward after three months, but he's dragging his feet and wants to keep it online and on the phone? Is this guy consistent about the facts about his life or are dates/events/names/etc not matching up? Those are red flags IMHO.

Hugs, Bunny

[smith18]

I think it is great that you are ready to converse with someone new. However, 3 months seems like quite a lot of time without ever meeting. Has he ever suggested meeting in person yet?