Well, have not made a new post for me in quite some time, so here it is. Not a whole lot to report. Just needing to vent. XW is getting married soon. Not new, have known for some time and believe I have stated so. D is 6 months old. Still in a great relationship myself. GF is amazing. Finally made an outstanding statement putting my foot down with XW as far setting a concrete schedule with children. We did a "do it yourself" D kit, and now wishing that was not the case. Worked good for the time being, but not enough concrete areas when kids are involved. Leaves too much up in the air. Definitely saved some money in the whole process, but I am not sure it was best in establishing boundaries when kids are involved. I guess I have allowed XW to control everything way too much, and did not really get it till I let myself look at things from the outside. Doing good now.
Shocked, How long are you divorced? With a 6-month old, I'm assuming it can't be long. And if so, sounds like you both wound up in Rebound Rs pretty fast.
Can a lawyer amend or otherwise put some visitation "teeth" in your divorce after the fact?
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
No, not long. I took out my sig a while ago. D was final in August. I did end up in a R pretty fast. No denial there. Actually met her very fast, but worked out great for me. Hers, OM. I am going for some legal here soon, probably this week. Mainly just to set some parameters on things to leave no questions on visitation and drop offs for children. Want some concrete establishments to settle kids minds and hopefully stop some of the upsets they seem to be sufferring.
Just posing a question to everyone. Do all WAS's try to bully around the other? I constantly get threats about taking full custody, going to change the kids school, "you will only see them every other weekend".....etc....
No it is not common, and you need to put your foot down and quick. It is harassment and should be treated as such. There is no reason, and you and your GF must make it clear that the behavior is absolutely unacceptable.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Although my split happened 9 years ago and we've been divorced for 5 years - my ex still continued to threaten and harrass me. Didn't pay the things he was supposed to. Always screaming at me. Until I stopped reacting. Until I stopped taking his calls. Until I put my foot down and said "NO MORE".
I have not seen or talked to my ex in app 2 years. We do have 3 grown kids and one is severely disabled so there will be some discussion regarding visitation at some point.
He still threatens and carries on to my daughter and to my son's nurses. He is still an angry man despite his marriage to "OW". He is not a happy camper. I choose to disassociate myself from the craziness.
Wow, Sun. While we have major differences in our sitch, I hear some major similarities too. LolaL, I have put my foot down, and tend to do a majority of contact through email or text, for proof of contact and what is said, and thank God my GF is very understanding and accepts the contact for more proof for me for any future legal disputes.
