Hello, In another thread, someone brought up a question about whether the LBS had a parent die at a young age. She was wondering if there was a correlation between having a parent die and being a LBS. S, far we've had a few people say that they did have a parent die.
As an informal study, this seems like an interesting question. I did. I lost my mother when I was 9. If you lost a parent, please post. It would be interesting to see if there was any correlation.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Lost my dad suddenly at 14. We had a great relationship. I think I go into relationships with the assumption that everything will be great - to the degree that I ignore obvious red flags (sure did with my ex) and just push ahead.
You know, I grew up in the traditional kind of household. My father worked from sun up to sun down, and the psycho bitch was home during the day.
I remember when I married the first time, expecting that my husband was going to work and I was going to be able to stay home and take care of the kids, because that is what my father and his ex psycho bitch sadist did. Didn't quite work out that way.
Don't ask why I posted that. Just came to mind
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Interesting post I am curious to see what the responses are. I lost my father 2 years ago this month. About 8 months later is when all of this started. I have wondered if there is any correlation between the 2??
H: 30 W: 31 S: 2 T/M: 6/4 D Final 4-5-10
Bomb: June 09 Status: D'd and moving onward and upward?
It is entirely possible, especially if there was MLC involved w/ the WAS. Studies have shown that MLC tends to correlate w/ a traumatic experience.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
My father died when I was 31 (had been married for 7.5 years at that point). I do believe though it was the start of *something* for my H. My dad died very suddenly, 6 days later I was diagnosed with lupus and one month later my mother in law got very, very ill and her prognosis was grave. It was then my H really just felt apart and shut down.
My H was never a yeller and it was then he started getting very upset at the smallest things. He would become unglued about me buying the wrong kind of french fries or some other sort of silly thing.
Looking back I think me getting sick so close to his mom getting sick really hit him had. My H's dad is not well to begin with and all of a sudden his entire family was very ill.
Of course my H and I had communication problems so I don't blame it all on sickness/death but I do think it was a huge part of it all. All the sickness/death I mentioned took place between Oct. and Dec of 2006 and H left in March of 2008.
My mom died when I was 4, and my dad when I was 21. I think that might tend to make LBS hang in more, we don't like to feel abandoned, even when maybe someone that hasn't had that experience would give up, or maybe should give up...
