I feel the longer he stays away with no contact the easier it is for him to make the decision to stay away. We have been together a year. and he is renting a room. please give me some feedback. he doesnt even try to call or text. should I him? and if so what do I say? we have no kids so no real reason to contact him. but i dont want to lose him.
Sorry for your pain. Can you fill us in a bit more on your history. Were you married to him? How long have you known him. What were the reasons for him leaving? Is there an OW involved? When did you have contact last? etc.
3 years married. one year together because of immigration issue. we fought a lot I made a lot of mistakes but didnt think it would end like this. he is very proud. west african so all that pouting and demands didnt work. I gained weight he said no attraction anymore. he says he filed then said no then said he found someone now he say no. I contacted him last. he used to text and call but now nothing for week. Im going crazy.
I'm sorry to hear this. I'm sure you are shocked and in a lot of pain. However, remember these are just papers and they don't necessarily mean things are completely hopeless. He may just be reacting in haste. Have you read any of the DB or DR books? You should get them, not only will they give you some insight as to how you might be able to still save the marriage, but they also will help make you a better person and feel better about yourself. I know this is a very difficult time for you and everything looks very dismal, however will be better days ahead. ((((Veronica))))
well. I decided not to shed another tear for that fool I cried and cried and even contemplated never breathing again...I just turned blue and got a headache. But its his loss. Im a big woman but I have lost 45 pounds and actually just got asked out today So I may shed a tear for the money i wasted but not on him anymore.
I'm glad you are feeling better. Congratulations on losing 45 pounds - wow that is a great accomplishment and very hard to do! Just know that you will be on a rollercoaster of emotions for some time with feelings of loss and despair, mixed in with feelings of relief. Try to focus on doing things for you and when you get extra down about your situation remember how you felt about not needing to shed another tear about that "fool".
but didnt think it would end like this. he is very proud. west african so all that pouting and demands didnt work. I gained weight he said no attraction anymore. he says he filed then said no then said he found someone now he say no. I contacted him last. he used to text and call but now nothing for week. Im going crazy.
I cried and cried and even contemplated never breathing again...I just turned blue and got a headache. But its his loss. Im a big woman but I have lost 45 pounds and actually just got asked out today 
So I may shed a tear for the money i wasted but not on him anymore.