CALLING ALL EXPERTS. TIME TO BLOW THIS MF UP.

[tjack45]

long time lurker. little background first. m 42 w 45. 4 kids. married 18 years. bombed ilybinilwy early oct 09. confirm ea 3 months later, suspected from beginning. brand new info yesterday!!!

found a love note from W to OM stating how they are going to be together forever i love you. you speak to my heart and soul.. blah blah blah.

until now w has just said he is a friend going through the same thing, could see dating him in the future....

We have been seperated 3 months. she has filed D, I suppose so she can marry him. Time to blow this f@cker up. I am going to see her today and plan on dropping the bomb back on her. Looking to see if I should bring love note and show or what proper procedure would be. Filled in laws in already (they are pissed and they promised not to say anything until tommorrow.) i have made many copies of love note and plan on exposing to everyone who would pressure this. W and Om work together and i will decide in the next few weeks if I decide to get them fired.

anyways need advice on the right way to do this. I am very much in control and my emotions are in check. I have felt this was the case all along, but just got the proof I needed yesterday.

[gman]

i guess the question i have for you is what do you want out of this? do you want to save mariage or something else?

this has Puppy Dog Tails written all over it - search this forum and read his words.

[tjack45]

well, i feel divorce is imminent. I have wanted to at least try to save marriage, but i'm not to sure their is time

[marriedCrazy]

What do hope to do with this "love note?"

Are you trying to bust the A? and then save your M?

Or are you looking for some kind of revenge? or legal advantage?

Most states are now no-fault and depending your state; this note may mean absolutely nothing in court.

[tjack45]

bust affair is goal. no revenge or legal stuff. i want creep out of my kids life

[tjack45]

i am really sick of her playing the we're too different, it just won't work, i don't know if we could ever have those feelings again, your better looking now than when we met, but i just don't feel it anymore Sh6t. I want the truth to come out. i guess i'm sick of her driving this crazy train, i want to kick her out of the seat, take control and watch sh6t hit the fan when she feels my power. 6 months ago she cheated on a weak, weak man who probably would have said at the time, oh, it's o.k. you love someone else? geez that sucks for me and the kids, but it's great for you. i'm not that guy anymore

[gman]

not knowing too much background on your situation, i sense she was/is in the WAW "fog".

After exposing the A and "busting" it up.....what do you want? Depending on what you want with W and R it WILL matter how you handle this.

[Kimmie Lee]

I feel for you and I am not going to patronize you by accusing you of doing anything for revenge. Exposing is exposing and the result will not depend on the motivation behind it.

You have as much right to your anger as your w has to her so-called "fog."

Go for it, and Godspeed to you.

[tjack45]

ideally, i want the fog gone. I want to see if their is any chance of saving this marriage. W and me need to be civil at the least if it does end in D

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I am very much in control and my emotions are in check. . . .

Could've fooled me:

i want to kick her out of the seat, take control and watch sh6t hit the fan when she feels my power.

Look, I'm as "pro-confrontation-and-exposure" as anyone on this forum, but there's really no use for it now. "a", you've already separated and D is pending, and "b" you'd be doing it out of vindictiveness and spite and anger, which are all the wrong reasons.

Puppy