New Comer here but Old timer Here Again!!

[KEE]

My H left me 3 times and his only explantions were that he did not want to be married The third time he left, I bought Michelles book and starting implempentig everything she discusssed The hardest was the detachmant but I poured myself into seeking things that I could do to make our marriage work as well as goals for me.
My husband started telling me that he didnt love me but when I pulled away, he would pull back towards me as if nothing was wrong. He honored his word and filed for a divoce in 2006. I stayed cool but friendly and resfuse to go to any of his court dates. I did get a lawyer to represent me but when we spoke, I reminded him that this was his divorce and something I would not particape in as I didnt want it. My husband game home within 6 months of the divorce being finaled and we have been together since.
I say new comer because my sons wife just left him. I gave him Michelles book and he is trying these techniques. He still struggles with detachment but he is getting there. He has made a few goals invoving his education as well committing to a plan to get on an an aiplane and come and visit.
I am back here after so many years to offer support and hope and try to learn from everyone as well so that I can help my son.
Kee

[gr8 day 2B alive]

It's great that you want to help you son work on his M.
In addition to giving him the book I would refer him to these forums.
Point him in the right direction and he's the one that has to make the effort to make thing schange.
There is a lot of good stories here and it is a good place to journal and/or vent.

This is a good place.

[trytryagain]

hi, kee...i hope your son joins us on this forum, and how wonderful that you want to do what you can to help him out!

i want to ask you a question, though, about your own situation. you said your H left you 3 times before you finalized your D and you're still currently together. what made you want him back after he'd left 3 times?

i ask because my H has left twice and i struggle with the question of do i want him back in my life or not?

thanks!