Possible EA - sitting on the edge

[Allen A]

That's where most things start.. people don't act directly from the physical, there's something mental/emotional that drives it...

If you want to end the cheating, you gotta find whatever's in your head that's driving the cheating in the first place

Some people's imaginations are richer than other peoples and as a result they fool themselves more easily...

Almost ALL WS's who are cheating fool themselves into thinking their affair has a strong foundation for a future...

That certainly isn't logic at work there... It's imagination at work, protecting a dangerous fantasy that was built up in the mind...

It has to end THERE or the affair is going to haunt you for the rest of your life...

[BWP]

I almost don't know how to update this but I just need a little outlet.

W and I have had 3 sessions with FT. The last one wasn't the best. W kept talking about not being sure about M - started talking about her family and they think I'm controlling (I wonder who gave them that idea).

I became a little emotional and just said - if you want to go, just go. Then after she's rubbing my back and being nice...anyway I got over it.

No contact with OM that I know of, intel is clean and W twice confirmed to FT.

It's a long road back after this but I still feel good about taking a strong stand.

Now I wonder though - what to do next?

[BWP]

I'm not sure where to post this so I'll pick up my old thread.

Since I last posted our FT sessions have ended. We get along fine, we've done things together but that is the extent of our marriage.

I still check the intel to make sure W is keeping promise of NC with OM and so far she is but now I'm not sure what is preventing us from moving forward.

I still sleep in the other room and we never talk about our M. I've been avoiding these conversations to be honest. Is it okay now to start having these chats or will I still be pursuing?

Any advice out there is welcomed.