Yeah Sandi, that was a dumb move. W and I had a talk Sat night. Not good. I made some huge mistakes in reacting to her. She still has in her mind that there is no feelings for me and has given up. She dragged up a hole bunch of old stuff and is now throwing in some new stuff like she was the only care giver to our kids, I never did nothing while she worked her butt off, etc, etc. Now, she feels like she is still giving to me and she hates it because I'm not in any hurry to separate. I asked her why she never tried to make any friends after her only girl friend left. Her reply was that I was suppose to be her best friend (here I thought I was her husband). She is still wanting this house and more than half of the value of it. I still really want to fix our marriage, for us our kids and our home but I think it's coming time to either leave or sell the home. Damn. How should I act while in this position? More 180's or go balls out LRT and start splitting everything? Anyone? -Lost Dad
Me 44 Her BIG 40 D 13 D 11 S 9 M'd 14yrs not in love bomb Sept 09 Wanting Separation Jan 10 Me trying to DB I don't hate my wife. I hate what she is doing.
Just an update here folks, made it through April and no change in my situation. But, she is talking with me on day to day stuff a bit more and cut back on the ignoring me thing. That's all. -Lost Dad
Me 44 Her BIG 40 D 13 D 11 S 9 M'd 14yrs not in love bomb Sept 09 Wanting Separation Jan 10 Me trying to DB I don't hate my wife. I hate what she is doing.
Have you had the opportunity to have a discussion with your W about your financial situation? My WAW said some of the same things your is....specifically about giving and giving. Turns out this had to do with my employment/keeping a job/etc.
Having that talk with my W was tough, but it got us started in a positive direction.
