How are you doing these days? It's been a long time!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I'm still around but had to change my name. Originally TravelBarb, later and for a long time - Barbie Doll.
Survived MLC???? Nope. Got divorced and never looked back. Took me a long time to reach the point I didn't want him back but have to say - he never improved. He is nasty, disrespectful and non-supportive of his kids. This is NOT a man I care to be around. He changed all his morals and values to suit his behaviour.
I am in a relationship for 6 years with a wonderful man and I am very happy. I would never wish what my ex did to me on anyone. But it happened and I've coped and survived.
How are you Snodderly? TravelBarb gave me her story....
And what a story. You moved on...found a new man and life is much better.
Me? Well, not sure what was happening my last post probably back in 2003 or 2004, but it has been the Divorce from well....you know where. Separated Dec. 2001 and my last court date was October 14 2009. Yep...you just cannot believe what this man has done to my world. The more I took the high road the more determined he was to destroy me. I cannot say how many times I've been in court. For the last 6 years I have been representing myself to all his attacks. I have even been taken to the court of appeal and represented myself there. There is an outstanding case next April 2011 to be heard on a suit against me and my long time ago ex lawyer, c'est what? and well, I feel another motion coming against me soon as he wants to change sons school when I don't believe it would be good for him.
He has learning disabilities and my ex can't handle that. Meanwhile he crushes his creative abilities in order to get him to be "normal".
So....all those who thought that we could make it because he still put his arm around me at night and bought me a couple of dresses, didn't have the full information I have now. I have realized that my ex is a very skilled, manipulative man. He only behaved the way he did to get what he wanted.
The other day, I found a piece of paper upon which was written, "she gave me 13 years of hell, and I'm going to give her 13 years of hell back". He came to believe all the lies he made up to justify his actions.
It has been very sad, and emotionally abusive for my children. He uses them and got two of them to go to court for him last year. They are desperate for him to stop and so gave him what he wanted. The thing they don't understand is that he has no intention of stopping anything. The only thing that would have ever worked would have been if I had given him the children and walked away and I was not going to do that.
Looking back, I walked the high road, my children have suffered, we are all a lot stronger, and all of us understand or are coming to understand the multiple fashions and means by which someone can be dishonest. It's not just words, even looks are dishonest among many other ways.
I have not had a boyfriend. I didn't want to bring that into the mess. I thought this would have been over long ago. So, 10 years of my life has vanished and I am still fighting him off.
My youngest is 13, thank goodness the older two are 18 and 19 and my eldest are not children of his. The good news here is that they have their (biological) dad back and more harmony than I can say has come about their reunion with him.
So much more to say, so much happened. Unbelievable!
I learned a lot!!!
So happy you both replied. Anyone else here from way back when in 2000 and 2001/2?
Last edited by FlyingOnMyOwnStill; 03/08/1004:34 PM.
