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[talia]

Thanks AC - I appreciate your kind words. The thing is - I don't even want him anymore. He's become a very horrible person....

I just want the dream of the life I thought I was going to have and all the things we promised each other. I just really don't want to be divorced... THATS that part I'm still grieving.

Plus there is still a big part of me that feels like I need to understand WHY... and that will never happen.

Good thing is I have tons of great coping skills so this isn't nearly as bad as it would have been had it happened 6 months ago!

More tomorrow.....

Gnite all!


T

[pearlharbr]

Hey Tal

Good to hear from you! How's the new job going?

I know this isn't exactly how you wanted things to go down. Just keep focused on the bright future ahead of you. You're right, you will probably never know why. The sooner you can accept that the better off you'll be.

It's H's loss, there are plenty of fish in the sea for you. And I'm sure more than one of them will appreciate you and want to be a true partner.

P.S. how's the dancing going?

[hockeymom12]

Talia,

Hang in there, I know what you mean about feeling very alone, and I am sure today will be very hard, I cannot imagine how I will be the day I get those papers. However, I have to say it was great to see you say that you can see yourself moving on with other people, this means you have gotten a life and that you know you have a great future ahead of you. Losing the comfort of your marriage is very hard but keep your head up and things will get better.

[avermont]

Hey Tal-

I'm glad to hear from you again, but of course sorry for what/why you are posting.

Sigh. The pain is there. Feel it, cry, get up and get out, cry again when you have to.

You're doing well with GAL and work and dates.

Onward and upward!

[Gardener]

(((Talia)))

[talia]

Hey Guys.. THANKS!!

I can honestly say I'm not really sad about the D papers. I'm really ready to just move on - I've met several very nice men and I'm seriously looking forward to playing the field a little bit

New job is awesome! I really like it and I'm fitting in well. The worst is over for the training/learning part of switching jobs so I'm just starting to settle in to a routine.

I the dancing is going horrible - apparently the dance studio dosen't do alot of stuff in the summer so there has been nothing good for me to take. I'm still looking around for other studio's that are doing lessons over the summer. Bellydancing lessons with the instructor I've been using won't resume until fall... SO I have signed up for a 5K locally at the end of July and joined a local running room chapter that has a group 5K prep class 3 days/ week so I can meet some new running friends and learn to run outside (Since I'm totally a spoiled runner on my treadmill ) I've also been taking a pilates class to help fill my time.

I can say - honestly - that I don't want to Be married to my H anymore. Now it will just be the process of dealing with his overbearing sense of entitlement .... which I have avoided by not yet going through the legal process. I'm glad its happening now - when I have the right coping tools and resources.


I was feeling very alone Sun night, but I'm really not alone at all and sometimes I need to remind myself of that. I have a very very good support network and alot of great things going in my life.
Plus... if I get really down I just need to remember that my H rents the spare bedroom in his brothers 2 bedroom double wide trailer and is dating a whore....
While I sit in my beautiful (almost completely renovated) house and am currently choosing between quite a few bachelors on various dating sites

HUGS

T

[Vulcanized]

I can say - honestly - that I don't want to Be married to my H anymore. Now it will just be the process of dealing with his overbearing sense of entitlement .... which I have avoided by not yet going through the legal process. I'm glad its happening now - when I have the right coping tools and resources.

This is good to hear. You are going to come out of this a better, stronger woman, T.

I was feeling very alone Sun night, but I'm really not alone at all and sometimes I need to remind myself of that. I have a very very good support network and alot of great things going in my life.
Plus... if I get really down I just need to remember that my H rents the spare bedroom in his brothers 2 bedroom double wide trailer and is dating a whore....
While I sit in my beautiful (almost completely renovated) house and am currently choosing between quite a few bachelors on various dating sites

HUGS

T

Yay!!! Nothing like being courted by more than one suitor to put some pep in a gal's step.

Was that you that was talking about plentyoffish? If I'm mistaken, forgive me. What other sites are you using? I'm poking around on some, could possibly use some others!