After a very long time I popped in today and saw you posting. I also looked at your blog but haven't had time yet to read it. However, I noticed that you are doing just fine. Congratulations. I am so happy for you.
I imagined that you looked like a gentle person but you are also so nice and young looking.
I don't post much anymore and I don't read much on here either because I still feel so sad about all the poor souls on here trying to save their marriages. Yes, the midlife crisis phenomenon is spreading like crazy.
Anyway, I wish you and your kids all the best and thanks for your update.
It's weird to come over here feeling so different inside yet still reading, seeing and feeling so much pain on the boards..
I am so sorry that some of you are still going through such misery and heartache.
All I can do, is tell you that if you grab onto all the positves you can, (and yes at times there seem to be none...) then slowly you will notice that you are growing stronger and the pain is getting less, little by little !!
It is a process and we all go through this at our own speed, no use pushing it, as it will only send you a few steps back each time.
Remember also that this is not a quick solution, we move forward, only to find out that something or other has made us fall backwards again, but we get up, and keep going...forward !!
I know many of the newbies, may not see me as a 'success story' because my H never came back, but in a way, I think my H never actually left...he's still here, we're still good friends, he still seeks me for advice and now has a totally different person in front of him as I have grown tremendously and am a confident, happy woman, with no grudges and no bitterness. We no longer have a marriage, but the connection is still there even though I know in my heart there is now room for another man, another love.
Please know that this too is a great achievement, and that it does not mean I am pro-divorce at all ! I just think that sometimes, things go the way the go, and we have to learn from it and make the very best of it !!
Take care xx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
I just wanted to say thanks to all of you that have found ways to contact me and keep me posted on how you're doing !!
Thanks so much !!
It hurts to still see so much pain and anger here. I feel for each and everyone of you, and eventhough, I can tell you that life DOES get better in time, I must be honest and admit that it does leave you scarred....it is up to us, to decide how we live with those scars in time !!
Remember the three great ones....Faith, Hope and Love...
Take care xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
I have caught a couple of your blog posts. good for you. did you and your H ever divorce? Last I read you had not but then I thought I saw your status as single somewhere.
It is so nice to be coming out of the cave I have been living in. Seems like the journeys for the most part are the same but just the time is the difference.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
