How is an online affair different?

[timehealsall]

I'm watching it too. Glad to hear you had a great day!

Although H and I had an argument and just stepped out to meet up with his
friend. It gave my anxiety because this was the friend that lived overseas with him and was the third wheel while H was with the OW

I'm so stupid. I am making an a$$ out of myself and pushing him farther away. Why can't I DB right?

[Kelly23]

I think they thing that pushed me the most was answering this question....what are you showing your children?

When they grow and have a relationship how are they going to view you and your marriage? Are they going to see a weak, powerless woman that let someone run over her and did not stand up for herself? Or are they going to see a strong, independent woman that stood up for her marriage and told husband that he can be in the marriage 100% or he can leave. Either way she knew that she was going to be happy and be able to be a good mother.

[timehealsall]

I really try. I truly do.

In all honesty, I feel in my heart that if it weren't for my children, I would have left 8 months ago when I found out about the A.

My kids idiolize their dad. To see us split up and have to
go yet another big change will be a hard blow
to them.

[Kelly23]

I completely understand about the kids but also know that you need to stand up for yourself if you ever expect H to respect you.

Did you respect your parents? Why or why not?

[timehealsall]

My father has been unfaithful to my mother for years.

BUT he never has opted to leave my mother or put his ow before us kids.

While I will say that my H's A has strained my R with my dad, mainly due to the fact I feel he is a hypocrite that he can shed tears over my heartache but he had no remorse for what he did to my mom.

I just need to detach. Part of me is happy he is leaving again. It'll help me GAL. I'm going to have fun and not worry about him.