Hello All, I have been in the newcommers section for quite some time and I'm beginning to see signs of piecing in my future. I have been reading some stiches here and I'm preparing myself for the things to come.(One roller-coaster ride to another.)
I feel I have successfully put the seed of doubt in her head about D. GAL, 180's have worked well for me and she has noticed and is concerned about them being lasting changes.
I am trying to plan activites "dates" with WAW, but I do't want it to seem like I'm pressuring her for answers.
Can any you suggest good activities we could done together that would be enjoyable and doesn't put pressure on W?
Does it feel awkward "dating" your spouse again?
Please help.
Thanks
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Welcome. Yup, it's really weird to want to not pursue but build positive connections at the same time. I have had some success with inviting H to events that I've invited other "friends" to also so he doesn't feel romantic pressure, also just talking walks and laughing and having fun as opposed to having an agenda to anything in particulare (movies, dinner, etc). We watch comedies together so we can enjoy each other's company. I have also occasionally participated in things H loves to do anyhow, so he feels I'm interested in who he is and what he spends time doing anyhow.
Low pressure things that allow for lots of laughter and friendship seem the best. Keep us posted and congratulations.
Thanks H4L, I am going to keep it light for now. I know she has seen changes in me that have been sticking and she' wondering how a person can "Change". I think I am confusing her and she's questioning the NEW me. I heard that the WAS will be confused b/c they have know LBS for years and know how we act. Now that we are acting differently they are forced to respond differently.
She has asked me how my counseling was going and I told her great. I asked her her she thought about going and she said she has a name of a therapist and needs to make an apptment.
I'll take that has a positive b/c we did goto to MC twice and she said she didn't need someone else telling her how she feels.
Is there anything I should be aware of when planning activities?
I was thinking of a comedy club or a flower show.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
