Baby Steps

[happywithchange]

Can people please list some of their goals, followed by the first thing she would do so you could confirm the goal was met. We need a list of baby steps!!

[happywithchange]

BTW, I have seen some goals met but didn't realize it as I hadn't read DR yet.

Here are some of them

Before: She didn't care where I was in the house or what I was doing, she would sit on the couch and read then go to bed

After: Now, I cant be alone in the house without her wondering where I am and why wont I come sit with her. Seems she wants me in her plans more often than not

Before: Any mention of anything more than a week away was too future for her as she couldn't think that far ahead.

After: Now she is talking future plans, with me in them, like 6 months, even a yr.

Before: In bed she was practically falling off the edge of our king sized bed. She was as far away as possible

After: While she is not uncomfortable in bed anymore and is not trying to get away

Before: Really wanted nothing to do with me

After: She wants Date nights. I didn't ask for them, we have been on 2 dates so far. Lots of smiling and fun, no true romance though. More like friends having fun. Which scares me a bit.

I guess what I want to happen in the next few weeks is for her to initiate any kind of physical contact. So there's my current goal. It's the only way to tell if I am making any more progress

I cant think of steps in between that and that's where my trouble lies.

[Wired]

My first baby step:
1.) Have her talk to me
- As I was leaving for the Doctors yesterday. She put herself between me and the door and said" I hope it goes well"

Still new to this, dont know if this is anything or not.

[MHL]

My wife and I hugged last night for a long time, it was something I have wanted to happen for over 5 months. It was nothing short of a miracle.