Hi, I'm trying to figure this day to day roller coaster out and hope that some of you can provide your insight.
Breif background . Married 16 years w 3 children. W turned 40 got a boob job (death blow everytime) straightened hair, worked out and then had an affair. She gave me the ILBNILWY speeach and wanted to try again, although her head was not in it and I fopund out she was still seeing the other guy. We seperated eight months ago and she started seeing the OM she works with. The OM is a cake eater and was not leaving his wife and my W was becoming stressed. I exposed the A to the OM'sW which pretty much blew up and ended the whole A. W went onto match.com and is confused. I send her a Plan B letter and tell her if thats the path she wants to take don't e-mail me text me etc. She cancelled her subscription and dumped some guy she met (they were never fully intimate). She is now in therapy and recognizes she is really messed up. The other day she started babbling about how coming back would be so easy for her and make everyone happy but in the same breath was talking about finding her internal happiness. She also asked if I was dating and when I said yes she was dissapointed. She also said becareful, I don't want to have to check you for STD if we get back together. WTF? I thought the marriage was over? I am royaly confused by her actions/words. I don't know where to go from here. We've been seperated for 8 months and I've been someone distant but occassionally invite her with me and the kids some where and she seems to enjoy it, but she is trying to balance out her happiness. How much contact should I initiate? It seems like I should wait for her to initiate it but occassionally get her involved in something. No one on one datte yet. How much space is too much space.
