MC appointment with the new C went great. The C was pro-marriage and said his favorite books for couples therapy are DB and Love Is Never Enough by Aaron Beck! Great signs right? He also was pretty blunt talking with us about the effects of D on children and how many people think that a D will solve their problems by getting them away from a person, but ultimately this just causes more problems, pain, etc. Both things I've heard from my wife. I have to say, I felt pretty good leaving the session hearing a C talk about things I've read in DB and DR.
So here's the question... Homework was to think about the things he said about marriage, working on a marriage, etc. Essentially all R issues... a big no-no to talk about. He said think first alone, then talk about it together before we meet again. When we left, my wife and I agreed to wait until the weekend to discuss it. I should wait for her to bring it up right?
She actually already did sort of. She called me at work during the afternoon and brought it up for a few minutes. Plus side, she might be thinking a little? Down side, I'm worried about a backlash from her having to confront issues and the whole WAW habits. Oh, and I just found out one of our good friends who is going through a nasty D is flying out for the weekend...
Right now, I think I should wait and let her bring it up, even if the weekend passes and it's next week before we talk. And I can spend the weekend with my son and working on my 180s and GAL.
