I only recently discovered this site and just finished chapter 5 of DR ... I am in the LRT. When I recognized that my marriage was in trouble, I sought to change the areas that I knew were driving her away. I was doing 180s w/o knowing the term 180.
But it seems to be backfiring. We went into counseling with the 'divorce option completely off the table', to where we are today, with her saying she does not want to be married and we're looking at separation.
She told the counselor, 'I see him trying so hard, and it's making me feel guilty. The only way I can deal with it is to get him out of the house.'
Where am I going wrong? Is the guilt a good sign, at least there is some remorse there that has struck her? She knows I'm not intentionally trying to make her feel guilty. Help, please.
