They are done, moved on a LONG time ago and will never be coming back?
Technically we are still married, we've been separated pretty much for two years (although last year it looked like things might have been turning around)..
We have a daughter together, he does not currently take her for overnights (although that will likely change soon as he just bought himself a condo and is just needing to get it painted and furnished) he instead spends his visit time here in my apartment.
He claims that I am still his best friend.
He has a girl friend, although after I confronted him about it he claims it's not serious.
He has told others that in his mind he hasn't been married since the day he moved out so what he does is his own business.
In my head I know it's over, my heart is having a hard time following.
I am so sorry. Well the infidelity depends...did he start with OW when you were still married? If so, then yes it counts. Of course when you are still legally married and not legally separated than a relationship with someone else technically counts. You can still use the divorcebusting techniques though...especially since it sounds like he thinks of you as a best friend and doesn't want to let it go. If my H divorces me, our friendship is over. We will remain business partners as parents. But that is my boundary...
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
W2G, Sorry that you are in this situation, but this is an excellent place to get support and insight.
What kind of relationship do you actually have? Is it a friendship or a co-parent relationship or does he lead you to believe that things can be repaired? I would need to have a better idea of where things are to really give you an opinion.
Originally Posted By: W2G
He claims that I am still his best friend.
If this is how he treats his best friend then thats kinda scary. From personal experience as well, trying to be the "best friend" of the man you are married to while he is cheating on you is a very painful and counter-productive path.
You say that in your head you know its over, but from what you have posted it sounds like he is giving mixed signals.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
