Going to be heading to "finalization" court meeting with judge in an hour or so. Blaaaaah.
Weird. and sad. Oddly, it feels just like my wedding day, in that I THINK I am perfectly mentally and emotionally prepared for this. Fairly mentally calm, and accepting of the future... Except that for some reason, my stomach wants to tie itself up in a gordian knot and hurl.
Ow.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
Annnd.... I'm single again! kinda anticlimatic in some ways.
But in other ways, it drags on. She decided to be vindictive and burn lawyer time on, "you're asking for extra time? well, I'M going to ask for extra time too!"
3.. stinking... hours. again.
And we're not done yet! ARRRRGGGG!
But I now can officially distract myself with other women. Woohoo!
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
Well, I am sorry to hear that, but at the same time, congratulations. I remember the feeling of now being able to not have to feel any guilt too. Knowing what my X was doing, and still having the feeling of being involved, was seriously angering, but I was still not feeling ok to do anything.
whacha confused about, dday? reguarding court: judge officially dissolved the marriage yesterday. However, "The Ex", decided to be spiteful and petty. I was requesting increased time with my kids. To have my FULL weekend with my kids, instead of being cut off at sunday. and a couple extra hours here and there, which seems to me like it just brought things up to pure "50/50".
She is so spiteful and petty, she decides to respond with a request of "same,or LESS time" for me?? UUGH.
Plus, i'm requesting child support be adjusted. Currently, she gets so much, her raw "net" income is higher than what I'm left with, after the support! California child support calculation is so whacked out.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
In other, happier areas of my life... I had previously taken a peek at eharmony, just to see what it was like. Never contacted anyone, since I wasnt "free", but wasnt too impressed with what I saw.
I just started on it officially yesterday and WOW! There are some amazing women on there right now!
*fingers crossed*
Now I just have to figure out this "dating" thing. I.. umm.. didnt really "date" much before I got married :-/
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
Dom!! Here you are! Glad you made it thru okay. Here's to leaving all that behind in 2009 and a fresh new decade! (And I am glad to see you have a thread now-- be sure to keep posting to it!)
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
