Well i spoke with a good friend of ares today my wife and his are like sisters.And he informed me of this from the time i went away she started hanging everynight at are lodge playing pool with the guys.And dated a few of them now i guess she dateing a 54 yr old guy and is happy now we have not finalized are divorce our first day before the judge will be 1-11-10 to she will ask i guess who wants it she really must she filed and her actions well!!I do love her and as i told jim i know i drove her to this but we are only still seperated as of now and i wish she would talk to me.But he will ask his wife how she is feeling or where her heart lies.I was not shocked actually laughed you see he older she 45 as i am and hes 54 and gray and retired must be chasing the money?And yeah i love her still very deeply she means the world to me as does the girls.