Just something funny to add. W's Dad is a little off. He had a very messed up childhood. He was severely abused (both mentally and physically) by his father. He has severe depression, and was a alcoholic and drug abuser for most of his life (sober for the past 6 years or so). He is also a complete homebody and can't stand being around people for more than about 5 minutes. I think I have said about 10 words to him in the 14 years that I have been with my wife. SIL told me last night that they had filled him in that W wanted a D from me. His comment "I new she had mental issues from the moment she was born. Why didn't anyone listen to me?"
me 31 her 31 ilybinilwy 10-2-09 i moved out 12-13-09 boy 7 girl 3 boy 16 months
Sounds a lot like the 1st time my W left. This time there's not a lot of ppl calling her crazy for leaving, but that's mostly due to her lies she's told everyone. The truth is slowly coming out, but every day that passes I'm caring less & less about that too. I'm still waiting for my W to have a wakeup call, hope she gets it and I hope yours does too (as well as everyone's). It took me a long time to have mine so I can't expect it soon from her either. Congrats on how V-day turned out for you - it's not too common you can participate in anything on V-day involving a WAS and not only get away with it, but make them happy in the process. I had no contact with my W for V-day, it's probably best that way.
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Little setback yesterday. I went through a book and love notes that W and I had written to each other back in high school. The beginning of the book started out with her talking about our special connection, how I was an angel sent to her from heaven, and how she hopes that we never let anything get in the way of our love. She also writes about the day that I proposed and how it would never leave her hand. She also says how she hopes in the future if we ever have hard times she will be able to look back at the book and always remember how special our love really is.
Anyway, I lost it into page one. (I seem to be having a breakdown about once a week) which probably isn't too bad. I guess I just have to allow myself to feel it, then realize reality and get back on track.
me 31 her 31 ilybinilwy 10-2-09 i moved out 12-13-09 boy 7 girl 3 boy 16 months
W somehow got on here and found my posts. I am screwed. I decided that it probably would be best to just get the D done and move on. Looking back the past 4.5 months have been a great time of growth for me. I thank everyone for their help and insight and look forward to some more success stories. In the beginning, I would of said with 100% confidence that we will figure this thing out. Now I am just at peace with ending the M.
me 31 her 31 ilybinilwy 10-2-09 i moved out 12-13-09 boy 7 girl 3 boy 16 months
Assuming that what you've told us is the TRUTH, Digger, what is wrong with you getting some support for what you are going thru?
I'm not sure I would want to stay with someone who would see that as a BAD thing. Talk about "controlling!" Maybe this is for the best that you two move on.
If your wife has the guts, maybe she should start her own thread, and the two of you can converse with the board and get some "free counseling"??
Pdt, I don't think she is really controlling. I think she just feels upset over some of my comments about her and some personal stories I shared. The main issue is that her family and I are very close and they are very open and supportive of me and hope to have a lasting relationship with me even after this is all done. I think she feels betrayed, (I think they just love us both) and I understand that my relationship with them does become conflicting once we are no longer married. I am not going to just drop my relationship with her family so that it is more convenient for her, so we will just have to figure out a way to make it work.
me 31 her 31 ilybinilwy 10-2-09 i moved out 12-13-09 boy 7 girl 3 boy 16 months
Puppy, I will let her know that she should sign up here, now that would be interesting wouldn't it. Honey, if you are reading this again do you want to contribute? Just log in as MISdigger22
me 31 her 31 ilybinilwy 10-2-09 i moved out 12-13-09 boy 7 girl 3 boy 16 months
Text W last nite to see if she would be interested in sharing her story on this site. She told me this morning when I dropped off the kids that she would be uncomfortable with this. I completely understand and may ask her again after the dust settles here. We are getting together next weekend and writing up the paperwork for an uncontested divorce. My only fear for some time know has to do the kids. I hope and pray for them constantly. I will always do my best to give them everything that they need and hope they can pull through this ordeal with as little amount pain as possible.
me 31 her 31 ilybinilwy 10-2-09 i moved out 12-13-09 boy 7 girl 3 boy 16 months
Just journaling with a bit of a revelation off of one of coach's posts.
"Our prisons are full of those who followed or acted on their feelings" (coach) Still being able to decipher right from wrong despite what your feelings tell you is what sets the strong minded apart from the rest. (my addition)
me 31 her 31 ilybinilwy 10-2-09 i moved out 12-13-09 boy 7 girl 3 boy 16 months
