It been a year and a half since my wife left and had an affair. Since then the affair fell apart 4 months or so after it started(he went back to his wife). My wife has lived with me and the kids until 3 months ago(she moved out). When she was with us she was on the phone(to you know who) caused many arguements. At this point our marriage is one sided. I want it to work-She does not. She drinks--We haven't made love in god knows when and the last time afterwords she told me she was still in love with him(the affair guy). Last night i gave her a goodbye letter. Not something i wanted to do but i am drained emotionally, mentally and so i have deceided to take care of myself-my kids and grandkids(they all live with me). I want things to be better but thats still one sided. I still don't know if thats the right thing to do but it's done now. In our marriage I did not cheat,drink alot,hit her, yell at her, put her down, I did get tired of being rejected over and over again. At this time we are still married as of yet I don't have the money for a divorce. When she did live with me it was like we were room-mates. Can't live like that.
Knight, it would probably be better for you to stick to one forum so we can keep track. The Newcomers forum gets the most traffic if you would like to go there. Wherever you decide....we'll find you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
