All this time passed - now what?

[tmarie]

I have not written here is quite some time.. But I need input and help..
The bones about it - I have been DB'ing for 2 years I thought it was working until I realized the contact between H and the OW has not ceased - I left feeling used, cheated and humiliated. He still wanted the D and the OW. so I gave in - I moved out, tried to get a life - I even started dating -
I believe my H is definately in a MLC - the last 2 years his main focus has been the OW - (pls know she is from the philippines, he has met her twice in person over the last 2 years - she is a scam artist to which I have proof.) Recently he returned from a trip abroad to visit her, I knew this, though his family (they were house sitting at our family home), knowing we were getting a divorce, had no idea WHY were were, they had no idea the OW exisited, they thought I walked out on my family! Needless to say I had a frank conversation with his mother, I needed to express my concern for my stbx - I think he needs help and I though MIL should know what was going on with her son..
Anyway H returns from abroad, and a couple of days later the OW breaks up with him, H is in a bad bad way emotionally.. I offer my support – as a friend – mind you the man has been my best friend for 18 years – we had problems in our marriage yes – but nothing that couldn’t be repair had we known what to do.. So he opens up - tells me a lot of the story how OW feels bad – and doesn’t want to be a mistress (even though we are ready to sign on the dotted line) anymore, that is it is her fault we are getting a divorce. He tels her NO NO NO – this would have happened anyway - he even asked me to talk to her…to tell her it wasn’t her fault – desperation – asking ME??
So the claim is he promised not to conact her – she is extorting ME for money – she wrote to me – and told me in so many words that “ I gave you your husband – fix your family – you owe me “ , seriously – this is what she wrote.. now I am not so stupid as to comply – but like I said she has been scamming for 2 years – the well is dry (H is in a finacial pickle now) and she is a sociopath – I am convinced. I have the documentation to back up my story – but H is in such a clouded place right, he would never believe me – OW is the saint –

There is sooo much to this – feel free to ask more questions – I invited H for Christmas dinner – he accepted – What now?

[job]

For now, do not respond to anything she sends you. You owe her nothing. Block her emails if you can.

About your h, just be a friend and keep your expectations at zero.

I do not think your h's story w/this woman is over completely.
She's not going to go away nicely and that's why it's important to keep every piece of email you get from her in case you need it later on to press charges.

I do hope things settle down and you both can enjoy the holiday.