I'm 34 she's 31. We have eleven year's on Jan. 15th. We have four kids, D14, S10, S4, D2. Our ten yr old has Asperbers Syndrom as well as myself. We done marriage counceling for 5 or 6 years now with minimal help. I've been on med and counceling myself for the same aOmount of time. The main problems been me. Iv had anger managment problems for about nine yeas now. Itcame to a head six weeks ago today. She's since filed for seperate maintenance which is basically a divorce with out a divorce. I'm trying to get her to drop do to the fact that we will loose everything. I'm the only one working. She stays home. And is trying to get disability due to medical conditions. A week or so after I was kicked out I found God. I always thought I was a good Christian, but I was wrong. That's been the one thing missing in my life. And I'm a better man thanks to her throwing me out. Matter of fact I thanked her for doing what she did that night. I've never touched any of them. It's always been throwing remotes, cell phone or punching wall. Alot of yelling and screaming. Now I know how wrong all the was and how it affected them. Anyway, I sit here on December 20 hoping I'm home for Christmas.
Welcome. You have found a great place for support. I strongly suggest you take this opportunity to become the best YOU that you can. You are aware of some of your issues. That is good. Making positive change to you will get you to a good place.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
You have come to a good place and you will get a lot of support here. It is good that you realize that you need to work on yourself. DBing is about changing the dynamic of your relationship by changing yourself for the better so you are heading in the right direction.
Glad you found this site. It helps. Read DR and continue to work on yourself. I hope you are home for Christmas also. I'll be praying for you and your situation.
BTW, some of the experienced folks will be around soon to help. Can you provide some additional details about your situation? More detail will help people advise you on how to proceed.
